What to do when someone's kid is mean to your toddler?

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Second plea for advice tonight!!!

In the kids corner in the library today, this older child (3ish) really upset my 13 month old. He was shouting 'No' at him (right in his face) and grabbing and shoving his hands out the way when he went to play with the pile of toys this boy had. It kept happening as it was a very small area and there wasn't really anywhere else to go. My DS evertually started crying and seemed realy confused and upset. He mixes with allot of other kids but not as old as that. He even tried to offer this boy a toy which he took and then shouted at him again. His mum bearly said anything and didn't intervene. What's the best thing to do in that situation? I know its the kind of thing that happens allot but it was the first time I've seen another child be intentionally mean to my baby and the look on my DS's face really made me feel bad!

I think I would have spoken to the 3 yr old in a stern teachery voice,"I think the toys are for everyone aren't they?" "don't do that please"
His mum should have intervened imo,I would also give her a glare

I usually intervene in situations like this by going over to the child (sharpish!) and crouching down to his/her level, saying that what they're doing isn't very kind, and they are making my ds feel very sad.

I know some people think it's a no-no to tell other people's children off, but if you do it in the nicest possible way, and if their parent isn't nearby watching them like they should be anyway, then I think it's the only thing you can do! I certainly wouldn't let my kids suffer at the hands of another child that was being so unkind. :(

Did a double take then wondering where my post had gone, before realising there's a duplicate thread!

ooops, don't know how I did that.

Was wondering what you lot would have said to the 3 year old.