spitting four year old ds

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He's driving me mad! Often if he doesn't get his own way, or is in a temper, he'll start spitting. It's done in a kind of threatening, "im gonna start spitting then" way. It's disgusting and I don't know how to stop him. If we're at home I've started sending him upstairs if he does it, but he doesn't seem to care.

I vaguely remember ds1 doing it, but it was a short lived thing. It's not a learned behavior, where do they get these things from?!

Any tips to make it stop would be great!

Bump!

I would just go zero tolerance, if he does it when out, straight home, when home, straight into whatever is the most boring space in the house.

I'd also be making sure he cleans up his own spit.

Has he seen someone else do it?

I ask, because there is a child in dd's class who does it. They are 9 now but this is an on-going issue since they started in the class 4 yrs ago. A Mum who knows the family says the granddad does it all the time, so the child thinks it's something nice old men do.

At 4 he is definitely old enough for a bit of consequences/punishment for when he does it. It is such a horrid thing, I'd go for zero tolerance as well. I bet it stops within a week if you take a favourite toy away, quickly, sharply with no discussion.

Good luck!

HI my son did this for a little while,he was about 3 i think,i just used to tell him it wasnt nice and that if he did it again we would leave wherever we were/stop playing whatever game we were playing etc.he stopped after a while its just a phase i think.

mind you he didnt do it the way yours does,it wasnt a retaliation thing,he almost seemed to not realise he was doing it,or doing it because he thought it was funny.

Both of mine had the odd phase of doing this. Drives me up the wall.

DD is 4yo and decided to come and spit / dribble on my bed during a tantrum yesterday. I'm trying to ignore it TBH, she's only doing it for a reaction. It's only me that gets it so I know she doesn't behave like it at nursery. If I made a big deal of it then she'd up her game even more.