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Behaviour at school - help needed

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Crusoe · 10/06/2013 13:59

I am literally at my wits end. My son is nearly 6 and in year 1. His behaviour at home has always been on the challenging side of normal but we cope well, have very robust boundaries and really very few problems. He is fairly hard work though.
At school, however, he is quite defiant, sometimes does the opposite of what he is asked, or when he does follow an instruction does it in his own quirky way. He can conform but it is often as if he chooses not to. The consequences at school really don't seem to bother him and all we do at home to reinforce school rules seems to wash right over his head. He promises to behave but the very next day we are back to square one.
I feel myself getting more and more upset about this and worried for his future. I am also upset that his low level disruption will affect other children and their learning.
I always seem to be getting notes about his behaviour and while the school have been fairly reassuring up to now I can sense their attitude changing slightly.
What can I do, how can I help? I have had meetings with school in the past to tell them what works at home but can see managing his behaviour could be tricky with 29 others in the class. He can behave but how can I get him to be more consistent.
Please, please any advice appreciated .....

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Kleinzeit · 10/06/2013 17:30

It sounds as if you?re already doing most of what can be done yourself. At that age it can be very difficult to reinforce school rules at home, by the time my DS got home whatever had happened at school was long gone. So I only used consequences at home for really serious misbehaviour (phonecall from the teacher type things, which I hope you?re not having to manage!)

If you?re really worried, my main thought is, talk to the teacher and ask if s/he thinks an observation by the educational psychologist or similar specialist would be worthwhile. In some schools the SENCO might be the first port of call for unusual or difficult behaviour that doesn?t have an obvious cause, in others it might be the educational psychologist.

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