looking for much needed advice.

[hannahlouise5615]

Hi, I have a wonderful 5 year old daughter and we had an amazing relationship untill recently me and her dad parted ways,

My daughter has taken things very well and see's equal amounts of me and her dad and we always remain civil around our daughter
But recently my daughters behavior has changed towards me, everything is a constant battle, we have moved in to my mums for a short period and nanny spoiling her certinly doest help lol,
My daughter seems to have lost any respect for me or general rules and refuses to listen
I spend a lot of one on one time with her , lots of days out,story time, play time etc and I take time to listen when she wants to talk to me.
When talking to her dad he underminds any rules I try to lay down, which will be confusing for our daughter and I am trying to work with him on this.

I miss my little lady and all the fun we used to have and was wondering if anybody else has been through anything similar and has any advice on what else I can do to curb her behavior and begin haveing the relationship we seem to have lost?

Hi Hannahlouise, I just wanted you to get a reply! I don't have any practical tips as it sounds as though you're doing everything you can to try and keep the door open for her to behave like she used to with you.

It must be very upsetting for you to handle, especially on top of a split with her dad. It sounds to me though like, even though you're making every effort to make the split as smooth as possible, she's naturally just reacting to this major transition in her life. It might just take time for her to adjust, and she will just need your patience and love (which it's obvious from your post you are already giving her). I hope you both get through this as quickly as you can. Hang in there, she will come back to you.

In the meantime, could you have a chat with your mum (and keep trying with your ex too), to tell them your daughter needs consistency and stability at this difficult time for her?

You sound like such a good mum, got any tips for my no-sleeping 4 month DD?!

Different rules could be confusing but it might just be a phase. My son only lives with me, I give him all the time, etc etc etc but he's started lying being rude, aggressive, and constantly argumentative.
It could just be my son, but I wonder if between 4-5 they're trying to exert more power. And you need to try and keep firm boundaries in place. She loves you and that beautiful behaved girl is still there.
Maybe give her some time. Sounds as if a lot has vhanged in short space of time. I don't have any answers but wishing you the best.