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Bursting into tears with loud kids

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Thomcat · 03/02/2004 14:11

I just want to run something past you please girls -
Lottie has always been confident and sociable but just very recently when with a lot of kids and they start getting loud, and I mean actually screaming etc, she just bursts into tears and clings to the nearest adult. On Sunday we had 2 children over, a boy of 4 and a girl of 3 and they were being lovely with her but she just seemed really unhappy with the attention and only wanted her mummy.

Is this just a stage?

I've signed her up for nursery starting in Easter and then her proper pre-school starts in September. Other than that she goes to a little group run by my mums local library and sees my friends kids at weekends quite a bit.

She used to be looked after my by b/f who had 2 very loud little boys so until Xmas she was used to be around them.

Did yours ever start crying at loud screaming kids and did they stop eventually?

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Enid · 03/02/2004 14:33

Sorry Thomcat, how old is lottie, I can't remember.

Dd1 was just like this. In fact toddler groups were a nightmare and we stopped going in the end. She hated noisy children! The good news is that she grew out of it (she went to a childminder then to nursery) although she is still a sensitive flower. But her playschool have just informed me that she loves to run around screaming with a very noisy boy...so clearly that phase is over!

Enid · 03/02/2004 14:34

Also, she might be sickening for something? Both mine get extra clingy the few days before they are poorly.

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Thomcat · 03/02/2004 14:45

Thanks Enid. Lottie was 2 just before Xmas but is at the level of an 18 month old and isn't walking which doesn't help I don't think. She's always at a lower level than them and can't get away when it gets too much.

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Jimjams · 03/02/2004 14:46

TC- I'm sure its just a stage.

Unless.....Is she bothered by other noises - loud or otherwise? If so it may be worth looking into the possibility of hyperaucus- basically hypersensitive hearing. If you do think that could be a problem it can be helped greatly in some cases by AIT (auditory integration training). I can let you know more if you are interested. I have a vague recolleciton that hyperaucus can be a problem for people with DS sometimes- could be wrong though.

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Thomcat · 03/02/2004 14:59

JJ - I was thinking along those lines tbh - it just seemed odd and so unlike her and was so sudden that I wondered if it was a sensitivity issue. However she has glue ear and although she has passed both her hearing test (done with electrodes etc) she doesn't have perfect hearing, I think it was about 60%. I've tried so hard to make her a in-clingy confident child, I?d hate it that she might just becoming a wuss! Still I?d rather that then a hearing problem. lets just hope it's a silly and short stage.

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Enid · 03/02/2004 15:01

It could be late-developing seperation anxiety - dd1 didn't develop it until she was 18 months and dd2 has just started it now (15 months)?

lou33 · 03/02/2004 15:02

Some of mine went through this TC, but eventually grew out of it. Hope Lottie does soon!

Jimjams · 03/02/2004 15:04

TC hyperaucus isn't realted to hearing as such. If you go a standard hearing person and ask about it they will look at you as if you are mad!.

Have a look here

I still think it is more likely to be a phase.

DS2 is terrified of any toys that move-he is a total wuss and runs screaming out of the room! He's been doing it for a while now (actually he seems a bit sound sensitive- if he carries on I;ll do some AIT with him when he's older

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Thomcat · 03/02/2004 15:11

Thanks JimJams - you wonderful world of wisdom you! Very interesting and worth noting, thank you.

I hope it is just a phase, I'm sure it is, I hope it is!

Just seems a bit out of the blue and as everwith a slight concern Mumsnet has made me feel better whilst educating me. Great stuff. i'll just watch how she goes and mention the hyperaucus to someone if I feel concerned a bit later down the line.

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oliveoil · 03/02/2004 15:19

Enid - I hadn't heard of separation anxiety, but this could be my dd at the mo, cries when I leave the room or even move if I am holding her and no-one but me will do. She is 15 months.

(sorry to hijack ThomCat )

Jimjams · 03/02/2004 15:27

Yeah I'm sure its a phase as well TC- don't worry though AIT is easy to do (just listen to weird sounds through headphones)

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Thomcat · 03/02/2004 15:29

No worries Oliveoil - that's what is great about Mumsnet aye - in reading this thread you have learnt of something that may effect your littleun.

I dodn't think that effects Lottie btw Enid. She is fine playing on her own and is fine if i am playing with her and then stop and leave the room - she's quite content in that way and she was fine with the other kids as long as there are other adults around.

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oliveoil · 03/02/2004 15:34

I will tell dh when I get in, he is feeling rejected!!!

xxx

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