My son is usually a really great kid. As with most children better behaved than most kids. I'm a lone parent who has high standards, and with time I've learnt to ease up a lot as it's so important to me that he's not stressed and he has a good childhood. But.....
I'm just fed up. I bend over backwards to make happy and to put his needs first. Everything I say, he says the opposite. So I learnt to take deep breaths, and appreciate it's his age. As I see a lot of 4-6 yr olds trying to exert their authority. Everything is a battle, even going to the toilet. I take him for a meal out (which is a treat even for me, as we're low income) and there's an argument. I praise him constantly for good behaviour. I explain to him what I disliked about his behaviour and ask him if he understands why it's unpleasant. But none of it gets through. If you met him you would say he's angelic, but I can't do it. Tonight, I've just finished work and we chatted about something, and I can't even remember what it was and he started wingeing and crying. I thought ffs what's wrong now and I blew and he's asleep before 7pm and I'm so mad with him and myself I just don't want to get up and do anything.
Why do we become parents, I don't remember. I absolutely hate his behaviour. I spend weekends taking him for bike rides or swimming, I actually schedule time to spend with him so I don't get too busy and caught up with work. And it's never ever enough. I don't have much support, I can't talk to friends or family. But over the last two weeks I actually feel as if I can't stand him at all. I feel like spending as little time as possible with him, because he is just difficult. I know I'm being selfish and not taking his age into account, but is it too much to expect kids who are almost 5 to have a couple of hours where they don't winge, don't lie, don't constantly backchat when you need their help. Is this unreasonable if you give them love, attention, time and things they want???