Demanding and bossy toddler - too much for me!

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My 2.10 year old DD is pushing me to my limits at the moment. She is generally a happy, kind and sensitive little girl, and is very vocal and has no problems demanding what she wants. But she is just being so bossy and rude at the moment.

I try explaining to her that it is not nice to shout at daddy for resting his head in his hands when watching tv, or shouting at me at her bedtime because I don't have any socks on or I happen to have rolled my sleeves up. It just becomes extremely wearing and I don't like aspects of her at times because of it.

As I said, I try and explain to her that what she is saying isn't nice and how she should say things. And also try very hard to model good behaviour, but this is becoming harder the more demanding and irrationally bossy she becomes.

How on earth do I deal with it? Nursery say she isn't this bossy at nursery.

I don't have an answer, but you are not alone. My DD doesn't sound as extreme, but can be quite like this at times and it is really wearing and full on.

2 ideas
idea 1. Every time she shouts at you joke it up. eg: "MUMMY YOU HAVE NO SOCKS, BAD BAD MUMMY!!!!!" you say "well my socks are in the draw napping, shall I wake them up or should I leave the sleep DD"
idea 2. Sit down with her and say we are going to play some pretend games. Then say "if someone shouted at you, what you do?"if she says shout back say no correct her and do this a few times.
Hope it helps
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Can relate to this. We ask DD to 'put her bossy voice away, in pocket/bin etc' as we don't like it and she doesn't need it. It mostly works very well and is fun. It did back-fire once when I mimed taking it and putting it in her pocket only for her to get it back out put it back on and shout 'NO!'. This can be a handy way of encouraging other types of desired behaviour eg. "Put your smile on for nursery..."

My almost 3 to dd is very similar. We have the bossiness plus a yet never ending chorus of I want I want. I have been reading 'toddler taming' in despair and the general advice there is to ignore it through selective deafness, it is extremely difficult though. We have also explained that 'please may i have' makes mummy happy and 'i want' makes mummy sad. This can work well during the day but loses impact when she gets tired/overexcited.