Settling baby in the evening

[SillyBlueHat]

Dd 12 weeks goes to sleep about 9.30/10pm. Until then she dozes and fusses. She just wants to be attached to boob and won't be put down. She won't take a dummy.
Any tips? I'd really like my evenings back!

I wish I knew, ds4 is 17 weeks and I've been sat upstairs in the dark now for over an hour as he feeds and fusses, dozes off but wakes up every few minutes. When he eventually goes to sleep I might get 2 hours before I have to do it all again. He's never give longer than 2 hours. Saying that neither has my 23 month old...

my children are aged 2 years old a 4 months old and I have the same prob with both of them try reading a story to them and brestfeeding the baby that usually gets my kids to sleep xx

my children are aged 2 years old a 4 months old and I have the same prob with both of them try reading a story to them and brestfeeding the baby that usually gets my kids to sleep xx

Sorry to say, is normal :) Will be tge tail end of evening cluster feeding. In a month or so's time she may be growing out of it and be ready to go down earlier. And you will LOVE having your evenings back when it does happen - tis a revelation.

Cluster feeding. A name for it makes me feel a bit better. She doesn't do much feeding though, just clamps onto my boob and won't let go. A bit like me with a packet of hobnobs.

Lol at a bit like me

I found that I could skip the cluster feeding if I got them down early enough ie around 6pm before the fussing started. If I left it too late, even by 15-30 mins it would take forever. I concluded it was that they were overtired so couldn't settle properly.

My little one is 17 weeks and we started a routine at about 14 weeks as he was ready. Before then he also was cluster feeding and needing lots if cuddles in the evenings. We decided to go with it and enjoy the cuddles, all sat watching tv etc together. It stopped when he was ready. Now he goes down between 7pm and 8pm, needs to be within 2 hours of waking from his late afternoon nap. Any longer and he gets upset. It takes about 30 mins on average to get him off to sleep but we're getting there slowly. Having evenings back is lovely, although I find myself doing chores and missing the cuddles a bit!

I'd like to know too. DD2 is 5 weeks, and I'm struggling to remember how we started to put DD1 down in the cot. Atm DH spends several hours cuddling and settling DD2 in front of tv and then brings her up and puts her in cot about 11. I just can't see how we move from that to putting her down at 7ish. She won't settle except on us, and she is quite ragey in the evenings.

Feel for you op. I remember how jubilant I felt at having an evening back. We did long bath, epic skin to skin feed (40min-1hr) then dummy until asleep, when I would promptly whip it out! Couldn't face having to pop it back all through night! We stuck to this pretty religiously for a few months then stopped using dummy. By then it seemed ds knew that it was big sleep time! Now expecting our 2nd and looking back on ds as new baby and sleeplessness it makes me quite nervous...