Explaining / reassuring re move to a new country

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We moved about a month ago from scotland to switzerland.

DD turned three the day before we moved. She seemed fine with the move at first but when it dawned on her that it was really permanent she has started to get upset. Asks to go back to her 'own house', asks for people and places from Scotland. Cries when we say this is our home now.

Ive tried explaining that we live here now. All our things are here. Me, DH and younger daughter. If we went back to old house there would be nowhere to sleep as her bed is here.

She saw most of the house being packed up and we spoke lots about the move in advance. We do plan to go back to visit in July but I've not mentioned this too much as she doesn't really grasp time and will just go on and on about it for the next six weeks.

Sorry this is maybe disjointed. Typing whilst supervising bath.

Thanks for any help.

It will get easier.

We moved from the UAE when dd was just 2 and ds was 8 weeks.

We moved to France.

We made it an adventure, talked to dd lots before we left. Let her choose a new moving buddy and she helped picked things for her new room.

Took to the move better than me

We are just packing as we are relocating in 3 weeks to korea.

I'm aware both children are a year older and understand more. We have talked to them lots, shown pictures and explained what will happen.

It's going to be harder this move due to them seeing grandparent more this year as we are so much closer to the uk, we also have a week back there before we fly.

Dd has repeatedly asked for grandma this week, this co insides with the packing boxes arriving. I think she realises what is going to happen. However we keep talking about the new house being close to the beach and the new school being full of new children to play with.

I found once dd made friends at school and socially she was more accepting at France being her new home.

I also kept things really familiar for the first few weeks, her bed room was the same. The same foods, we stuck to the same parks and shops in order not to confuse her further. Once she was comfortable we went further afield.

Thanks for your reply and suggestions barbie
She does seem to be settling a bit now, and I know that it is really early days.

Fingers crossed I haven't scarred her for life...