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Is this an appropriate punishment?

39 replies

margaritadrakeina · 23/05/2013 18:02

If your child is messing around with their food/making a mess at the table is the following ok or not? To make them take their plate and put it next to the animals' bowls on the floor of the kitchen because 'if they're going to eat like an animal they may as well be treated like one'. Then make them eat the rest of their meal from the plate on floor next to the cats and dogs bowls (without cutlery, crouched over the plate like a cat) until the plate is cleared.

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InsanelyBrainDeprived · 23/05/2013 18:04

Really? Biscuit

Smartieaddict · 23/05/2013 18:04

Seriously? No definitely in no way is that OK!

Dontbugmemalone · 23/05/2013 18:05

WTF? I doubt this is a genuine question but OF COURSE NOT.

Pancakeflipper · 23/05/2013 18:08

No.

Though I threatened them that I would drag the pig trough indoors once after one meal time where more ended up on the floor than in their tummies ( they are 8 and 4 yrs old).

Wishiwasanheiress · 23/05/2013 18:09

Why are you asking? Back story please

BeerTricksPotter · 23/05/2013 18:09

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ItsallisnowaFeegle · 23/05/2013 18:11

Go and wobble your fucking head OP.

WeAreSix · 23/05/2013 18:12

No. Totally unacceptable.

Cluffyflump · 23/05/2013 18:15

Is the child ok?
This is in no way ok. I would do serious harm to someone if they treated any of my dc like that!

ItsallisnowaFeegle · 23/05/2013 18:15

Umm actually - yeah, I responded too harshly/ quickly.

If this is what you're using as punishment for your DC ^See my first response AND contact SS.

If you are asking as someone concerned for some other person's DC contact SS ASAP.

SlimePrincess · 23/05/2013 18:26

Absolutely not appropriate.

redrubyshoes · 23/05/2013 18:30

Take the plate away with no comment or fuss and offer no alternative. Repeat.

Praise when they eat properly.

Don't make them eat like a dog. Please.

SgtTJCalhoun · 23/05/2013 18:30

No Sad.

noisytoys · 23/05/2013 18:35

Please tell me this hasn't happened / going to happen. It's terrible. It's degrading the poor child will be humiliated and will never forget it. Why would anyone even think of doing that?

margaritadrakeina · 23/05/2013 19:00

Yes, seriously, it is a genuine question. No, I am not planning on enforcing this on my children. Back story is merely that I have recently started a course of counselling and I was asked to try and remember about my childhood. I didn't know if it was worth mentioning or if it just counts as normal discipline. Just wanted some opinions, that's all.

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FarelyKnuts · 23/05/2013 19:03

My not so darling mother used to cut out the middle man and just give the dinner to the dog if we didn't get to the table the first time she called us or act in an "appropriate" manner and that was abusive enough!
So to answer your question its not appropriate, it's abusive.

Dontbugmemalone · 23/05/2013 19:03

Oh no, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope counselling helps you.

Have some unmumsnet hugs ((( )))

crunchbag · 23/05/2013 19:03

No it definitely does not count as normal discipline Sad

SgtTJCalhoun · 23/05/2013 20:10

OP I was given a plate of spaghetti and toast to take into my Dad for his lunch. I was five and it slid of the plate. My Mum made me eat it off the floor just as you describe.

I had forgotten and now I am sitting her shaking with rage thinking about it. I am sorry this happened to us. Yes it needs to be mentioned at your counselling.

Snog · 23/05/2013 20:15

It is surely quite disturbing that you feel you need to ask this question

margaritadrakeina · 23/05/2013 21:58

Why disturbing?

SgtTJCalhoun hope you're ok, sorry I reminded and upset you.

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SgtTJCalhoun · 23/05/2013 22:04

No it's fine. I told you because I wanted you to know you're not alone.

ballstoit · 24/05/2013 07:26

Not okay, and I'm sorry that you experienced it x

cantreachmytoes · 24/05/2013 07:32

Just wanted to add: really not ok.

Very sorry this happened to you (both).

exoticfruits · 24/05/2013 07:41

It isn't normal discipline- I would definitely mention it.