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Can I discuss my 12 yr old ds a minute pls - anyone who has been there too?

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Piffle · 11/05/2006 09:53

Ds has morphed recently, I would not say I am worried per se but am wondering if it is normal evolution or whether I need to restrict him at all.
Basically at primary school ds suffered with a lot of bullying, physical violent because he was a clever lad and enjoyed school work. So socially he was unpopular with the "lads" this caused him much angst throughout his primary schooling.
He is now yr 7, very happy and doing very well at his grammar school.
So now GIRLS.
Being very tall, very handsome and very clever, he has become a little bit of a hot property for the girls (from the girls grammar school) Apparently every yr 7 girl knows who he is, a group of about 9 friends are falling out all the time over him.

Now
When dp got up the other day at 5am (to drive down sth for work) he noticed ds was up and getting ready for school, ds then left for school at 7am we live 15 mins walk from school it starts at 9.
2 mths ago he would have to be dragged out of bed at 8am and be forced into action.
He is meeting in the marketplace (where all the coolest kids meet) and holding court there til school time.
He then spends 1hr per day (my limit) on mns talking to his harem and then texts (he pays out of his allowance)
Now his schoolwork is slipping a little, he is high in the top set so I would be dumb to describe it as a wrry, but I am a bit concerned
His bedroom is a pit, he used to be very good.
I did mention to him that I would take away his alarm clock, drive him to school and pick him up myself, restrict the pc to weekends if he did not sort himself out.
He said oh so I can't be messy and have friends and stomped off...
If you're still awake?

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pindy · 11/05/2006 10:03

Sorry - but thanks - that is soooo reassuring, my ds is 12 and apart from the bullying at school the rest is just the same.

No help to you - but I feel better and maybe you will to!

noddyholder · 11/05/2006 10:08

Same here too except ds is little and gorgeous and his phone rings day and night with silly girls and his work is no longer a priority although he is clever and all homework and tests are still really good results but kit is luck and his homework etc is def not a priority anymore.I hate it tbh but I am assured it will pass they are just flexing their muscles and trying to be teenagers

anniemac · 11/05/2006 10:30

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rosiesmumof4 · 11/05/2006 10:46

I think it's just 12 yo's, my fear is that it is only going to get worse ;-)

sallystrawberry · 11/05/2006 10:49

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anniemac · 11/05/2006 10:50

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Piffle · 11/05/2006 12:45

Had no idea it was so rife! Feel like I must have my head in a box then...
He did have a lot of girls around over the weekend last yr, but it was primary school, I never really contemplated how it could all kick off he was equally attractive to secondary school girls too!
Some of the girls are quite errmm... assertive, but figure, if he's going to be in, he has to learn the hard way Grin

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