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Dh would like to know if ds is a genius

17 replies

lunavix · 09/05/2006 23:08

Ds has just turned 2, and quite likes his 'ninuc' (music). Dh and I both have some music videos downloaded onto our phones, and occassionally ds will watch them sitting in the car or in the buggy - I have the JCB song, Girls Aloud, Kaiser Chiefs.. dh has Dirty Pretty Things - Bang Bang your dead.

Ds might have seen the dirty pretty things video maybe 20 times max.

Tonight, we turned mtv on for 5 minutes, and they were on chatting for an interview. Ds starts jumping (which tbh I wasn't entirely sure he could do he tends to skip more!) shouting 'BANG BANG' 'BANG BANG' blatantly demanding the video for the song.

Dh says they were wereing similar clothes, but he now thinks ds is a complete genius for recognising them and associating them correctly at such an early age.

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darkchocolate · 09/05/2006 23:12

i don't know, dd (now 2.9) amazes me all the time. She only has to hear about/watch something once or twice and she brings it up several weeks later. She also knows the whole of Dogger (as well as quite a few of her other books) off by heart which my friends in child care say is pretty impressive.

misdee · 09/05/2006 23:16

t the age of 2, dd1 would reonguise a song or tune within the 1st bar. she loved some trance tune, and one dy went zooming into the living room as she heard the tune starting.

handlemecarefully · 09/05/2006 23:36

lol - sweet that dh thinks he is a genius. He may well be very bright - time will tell, but probably not enough evidence on the strength of this to sign him up to MENSA yet

(My dh also thinks that our 2 progeny are genius material)

lazycow · 10/05/2006 11:49

Dh thinks ds (17 months) is going to be very artistic because he loves painting and drawing (well messing and scribbling),demands to do it most days and screams when pens/paints are put away. I have tried telling him it is a bit early to say whether he will be artistic but will he listen? - no

He is also prone to calling other babies 'lesser babies' So he will say things like 'Oh yes for a lesser baby xx is very cute' It is a joke but I have to remind him that other parents might not like their children referred to as 'lesser' in any way.

It is quite sweet how partisan he is though - I'm the more realistic one. I suppose it is good for ds to have at least one parent who thinks he is objectively (not just subjectively) the best baby in the world.

blueshoes · 10/05/2006 11:57

All our children are geniuses in their own way. But best keep that to ourselves ... . If I found out my dd was referred to as a "lesser" baby, - because my dd is slow-ish developmentally in certain areas.

lazycow · 10/05/2006 13:25

oh I know blueshoes I am working on him. His sense of humour is a bit duff sometimes but he would be mortified if he knew he had actually offended someone. In other ways he is the most PC person I know - so much so I even get irritated with it.

To be fair it really is a joke and he never says it other than at home but I do feel these things can get out of hand. You end up seeing it as in in-family joke and by accident say something when out and people get upset.

CorrieDale · 10/05/2006 14:54

lazycow, I know just what you mean! DH consistently refers to other babies as 'inferior babies' - though only to me. I too live in fear of him popping out with the expression in public. I don't think he will, although I have noticed that while I can coo over virtually any baby, he only really likes ours and tends to ignore other people's! And he also thinks that DS is a genius. Probably because he pays very little attention to other babies and doesn't know what they can do that ours can't!

lazycow · 10/05/2006 15:32

CoprrieDale - I am now worried our dh's sound like the same man. Mine is a lawyer so understands the consequences of bigamy very well - I will assume it is all a coincidence

kayzed · 10/05/2006 16:45

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Filyjonk · 10/05/2006 17:02

ok, my dh has a 1st from Oxford in maths and also a phd in maths and did not speak til he was 3.

I on the other hand was apparently using sentances before my first birthday and have truly done f all with my life, save cultivating addictions to mn and chocolate.

They're all gifted. Sorry, a cliche I know, but tis true.

(specially my two )

Filyjonk · 10/05/2006 17:03

oh crap, not aimed at you there kayzed, sorry.

sugarfree · 10/05/2006 17:08

Filyjonk,thankyou,I needed to hear that(DS3has a speech delay)

Blandmum · 10/05/2006 17:09

dh (also an oxford grad) has a tested IQ of over 150....was also late to talk, couldn't be bothered to read until he saw a reason. 4 As at A level, went to Oxford, started to learn about women , drinking and flying and ended up with pass degree! LOL

He may be technicaly a genius, but has a crapola degree.

Very able though. When he puts his mind to something

kayzed · 10/05/2006 17:18

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blueshoes · 10/05/2006 17:22

As parents, we are allowed to indulge our fantasies in our children. But ... I would be wary of drawing conclusions of genius in pre-school children. So much depends on their speed of development, which is individual to each child.

Early genius could just simply mean precocity in one or more areas. Just because a 3 year old speaks or reads like a 5 year old, doesn't mean the slower one won't catch up later and even surpass. There are also different types of intelligence that are not as obvious indicators of "brightness" as speech is. The silent child could be nursing a formidable intellect.

In later life, personality traits such as organisation, interest, persistence also play an important part. So I wouldn't be counting my chickens yet! But we can always dream ...

Blandmum · 10/05/2006 17:26

My dd is very able (wouldn't go as far as to say gifted)

at 11 months she was talking. By 18 months we had full sentences of 8-10 words. By 2.5 she knew and recognised the alphabet. taught herself to read ay 3. At this stage she was quite 'alarming' Questions she would ask were, 'How does the electricity get down the wires', 'Why does the sky go red at night'. She would make connections between things. At that age she was exceptional. And she has leveled off, to a degree.

She is 9 with a reading age of about 14, very musical and a cracking scientist, but in other respects is a normal 9 year old. She may continue to excel, or may level off further, who knows? She is fun but very hard work.

They are all brilliant, and all learn a different rates. I'd say, have fun, but stay relaxed about things.

sparklemagic · 10/05/2006 18:08

Lovely post blueshoes. It's so easy to get taken up with these matters but I think for alot of parents it's just surprising how much children know, and notice about the world. Their capacity for thinking about big concepts really is amazing.

I'm lucky in that I never get drawn into judging how bright or not my DS is, based on the life of my bro, who was late to speak, undiagnosed dyslexic, and hated school because his personality just railed against the loss of liberty...yet he has done more with his life than anyone else I know and now makes his living as a writer.....so for me, my focus is on my DS' personality and making sure that he feels valued for who he is, not what he can or can't do. And hopefully he will have confidence in himself...

Lazycow, your DH and the 'lesser baby' thing is so sweet, what an adoring dad!

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