I have an intelligent, funny and beautiful 3/5 year old dd. She has been at a new nursery since January and with her new childminder for 3 weeks.
Yesterday, the c/m told dh that dd had been really mean to her 18 month old ds, snatching things from him and excluding him from her games. Today, she tells us that the nursery collared her when she picked up dd and said she had been in trouble for throwing sand all over a little girl and then when told to apologise, she threw 2 more handfuls at the girl. She was also mean to c/m'sds again.
dh spoke to dd as I did when we got home and she knows that her behaviour was wrong. When I said how was her day she said "not good. I was in trouble at nursery coz I threw sand at someone coz they said they didn't like me and went Mrs X told me to apologise, I threw more sand".
dh was going in to speak to the school tomorrow about the state of her clothes...her brand new £33 summer uniform dress is covered in paint. Now he feels he has to go in in cap in hand to apologise for her behaviour.
This is so unlike her. She is strong-willed but not mean. She can be precocious but not rude.
I was so upset that I ended up telling the lady on the train about it on the way home from work after dh left me a message and she told me that the nursery were over-reacting and shouldn't have made a fuss butI'd be pissed off if someone chucked sand all over dd.