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Anyone else got twin boys?

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kizzie · 21/01/2004 22:26

Mine are nearly five. They came out with a bang and they've never stopped since.
Would love to share tips/ mutual support/ screaming fits.
Kizziex

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kizzie · 12/02/2004 10:50

Thanks for the link Paula- Im just about to start a new thread under parenting re. prob we had last night.
Feeling v upset about it.
Kizziex

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josiejump · 12/02/2004 21:20

Paula, thanks for that link, I'll be checking it out too. Tonight on the way home from school, my two ran ahead around a corner. When I got there, they had taken off their shoes and coats and were crawling around on the pavement like dogs! Got some very disapproving looks from other Mums. Do other children behave like this? It's not quite normal is it?? ( The phrase 'barking mad' springs to mind!)

Paula71 · 24/02/2004 21:39

Okay kizzie, jac34 and josiejump, need your advice here. Have potties at the ready - how did your boys' potty training get started?

I had thought of not going anywhere for a couple of weeks and just letting them get used to it & using nappies for night-time only. Am going to wait for this cold snap to be over so they can run around bare bummed without getting a chill. Does this sound sensible?

I bought the potties this week and have been letting them get used to sitting on them at bedtime but they just sit there, no wee or poo! They both come up to me immediately after soiling their nappies and when running around naked before bathtime they both will panic when they feel a wee coming on. I am trying to get them to realise what this feeling is and associate it will needing the potty!

Ah, the fun begins! Ds twin2 has already wee'd down the side of their toy garage, still works though!

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kizzie · 25/02/2004 17:32

Sorry Paula - just wrote you a message but seem to have lost it.
Anyway it basically said that I didnt really have a plan (ie had no idea what I was doing!) but just basically went with the positive praise theory. So each time either of them managed to do 'anything' on the potty we went into major celebration mode. Lots of squeals of delight, cuddles etc etc.
One of them took to it quite quickly but the other one took ages.(just to warn you.)
Good Luck!
Kizziex

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Paula71 · 26/02/2004 09:26

Luck is what will be needed Kizzie, thanks! So you have one twin who will do something and the other follows? What I mean is ds twin2 always does things first, first tooth, first step etc. Ds twin1 is always a few days behind and it is strangely always the case, ds twin1 never is first, which makes me think the doctors fished the wrong one out first as aren't first borns supposed to be the leaders

This time though it is ds twin1 who is more aware of happenings "down there" when he doesn't have his nappy on!

I have a horrid suspicion that at some point one of them is going to upend the potty onto his brothers head!

Okay positive praise! I can do that!

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kizzie · 26/02/2004 10:59

Exactly the same here ... DS twin 2 has done everything first. (walking/ talking/ feeding himself/ potty training.)

Although interestingly now that they are at school DS twin 1 is miles ahead with his reading.

I think that with the potty training the thing that made the difference was that DS 2 was very aware of having a dirty nappy on and hated it. Whereas DS 1 would have lain in it for hours quite happily!!
Kizziex

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jac34 · 26/02/2004 11:22

Hi Kizzie, paula,
I have also dicovered that the pattern seems to change, as to who does what first.Twin2 always used to be first at every thing, now at school twin 1 seems to find school work easier and is doing slightly better.Mine are 5.5 now.
As for the potty training,they were both about the same, but I think twin2 was keener to learn, but more from an obsession with toilets than anything !!!
We have very few carpets in our house,so I just let them run around with pants on,(so that they know how it feels to be wet).I just made sure I had loads of pairs,I think I had about 20 pairs. I bought two packs of 10 from Asda, and at times I needed all of them !!

jac34 · 26/02/2004 11:39

Also, I have a bit of a dilema at the moment:-
My DS's have started going to friends houses straight from school for tea. So far, they have both been invited, but the other day Twin1's "girl friend", wanted him over to tea and I could see twin2 was only invited as an after thought. I can fully understand mothers only wanting one at a time, which is fine,especially as my boys do both have different friends. However,as they are still very inseperable, they automatically think they are both going.I'd also like to encourage them to go with different friends alone.
The plan I have so far is, that next time one gets invited to tea, I'll try to invite one of the other twins friends over, so that they have somthing planned as well.
Do you think this is a good idea ???Any other thoughts, what do you do Kizzie, I think your boys are a simular age to mine ????

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kizzie · 26/02/2004 22:29

Hi Jac - yes mine are nearly 5 and facing exactly the same thing. In fact Id decided to do exactly what youve suggested. (ie. if/when it happens let the other one invite a friend home on the same day.)
Its all a bit of a minfield isnt it...
Kizziex

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josiejump · 26/02/2004 22:47

Hi Paula. I have to say I found potty training one of the most stressful times ever with my two- they just didn't seem to get it for ages, and the amount of washing was just ridiculous. I bought washable trainer pants for them, and having to scrape poo out of them on a regular basis was just gross! In the end, I bribed them with lollies. Dreadful parenting I know but it worked .

The going to friends houses thing has been resolved as very early on, DS2 was being invited to lots of parties and to friends houses where I don't think the parents were aware that he was a twin. Ds1 was upset initially, but I did something special with him each time ( a trip to the park, kite flying, etc) and now it doesn't seem to bother him.

Paula71 · 27/02/2004 21:49

It will be interesting to see if my ds twins swap who goes first when they get to school.

Jac I think that when the time comes they have a different set of friends and one gets invited, not both...For my two it might be good for them to have some separate time. I can sense now that ds twin2 sometimes finds his older brother annoying! This would be an easy solution, I suppose.

Josiejump, bribery rears its head in this household more than I like too!

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