Ds is 9 and otherwise a really nice kid. He's chaotic though.
He's always been chaotic. Like, he'd charge at something, not in a violent or shouty way, but just everything he did it was like he couldn't even hear my instructions. Nothing ever went 'in' iykwim?
For years he's been improving - he still needs to be asked about 8 times before putting on his socks, gives the most random answers for his maths homework despite getting the question right two minutes ago.
I've realised tonight that something I asked him to do, checked he had done and he told me he had done, he never did at all.
I don't think he usually intends to mislead. He just hears something that sounds like a question and he sayst he answer he thinks it requires.
I am almost in despair. Sometimes he lies anyway as he;s afraid of being in trouble, too. But it's like I cannot trust anything he tells me, at all, and IU feel like when he is away from me I genuinely have NO idea what happens in his little life.
Is this a thing that is wrong with him? I wondered about some kind of processing issue, we suspected dyslexia for years but school says no, private test said borderline when he was 7 (and IQ over 140 - big shock as it doesn't appear that way)
I am wringing my hands here for how to cope with him really. I just want him to tell me things, honestly, without making things up/giving two different answers in the space of 60 seconds (did you like dinner today ds...yes, we had dinner, it was great, I ate it all...30 seconds later...actually I didn't really like it, I didn't eat any of it. hang on, no, I ate the beans, I mean I ate the chips, actually I ate most of it')
what is it all about?