Has anyone else got a 14 mont old who whines and whinges all the time? PLEASE tell me I am not the only one!

[MrsDonnieDarko]

Long story short, DS2 ihas always been bloody difficult, cried no end as a smaller baby, literally inconsolable. Tried reflux medication, feeding less but more often, feeding more, cranial osteopathy, dairy free, you name it we tried it. NOTHING works with this child! He is beautiful, utterly adorable for about 5 seconds at a time and then the whimpering and 'crying' starts.

Arrrgh, sorry this is just rant to vent. DS1 was the same so I think I just breed hard work babies but my GOD it is hard. We try and get out as much as possible but even the school run ends with DS2 whinging and shouting to come out of the pushchair. If he could walk I think it might helo but he has low muscle tone in his legs and is currently being referred for physio to help with this so it feels like it's a long way off at the moment. Poor little lad must be so frustrated but half the time I am convinced he doesn't even know why he's moaning. He'll do it while we're playing, reading, out in th pushchair just all the time for no particular reason. Sometimes it just gets a bit much having him whine and cry all the time whilst still trying to interact with DS1 (age5).

Sometimes I say 'DS2, STOP your moaning, there's nothing wrong is there?' and he'll stop and play for another minute until he starts again! Grrrrr. Why???! Anyone else had this? It's getting embarrassing to take him round to people's houses as everyone says how unhappy he is or keeps asking me what's wrong with him when the truth is I have no idea. Sadly DS1 was the same until he could talk. How do I get through this and help him without wanting to bang my head against a brick wall?

[Tournesol]

It sounds like you are doing a great job. It is so draining having a constant whinger. It sounds like he is just frustrated and once he can talk and walk he will probably cheer up. Not much help I know as it probably seems a way off but perhaps try and work on some sign language or give him a trolley or walker to push around and see if that helps?

[KeepCoolCalmAndCollected]

Are you sure he's getting enough sleep? (And I really do mean ENOUGH).

No offence, but I have seen this so many times, when mother's are saying he's fine he's just being naughty/miserable/whingey/difficult etc etc etc., when to me they are very obviously extremely tired. A lot of mothers from my observations just really can't see something so simple. Consequently they are blamed, when it's not their fault at all.

It's certainly worth looking at this, because you might find him to be a completely different little boy if this is the problem.

[forevergreek]

Yes I would say sleep. At this age i think 14-15 hrs a day is recommend , is he getting that much?

[MrsDonnieDarko]

When he was younger I would have thought yep he's tired because he was screamy and couldn't sleep in the day at all. He sleeps amazingly well at night (13 hours straight, I know I am very very lucky for this) He also has an hour and half nap at midday. That's 14.5 hours a day so I don't think it's just that. obviously be bed time he's extra niggly and whinges throughout tea time which I think is largely due to tiredness but he is literally like this from morning til night. He begins to whinge as soon as he gets up in the morning. I have no idea what it is! I know DS1 grew out of it so odds are DS2 will too but it's so hard to listen to your child being distressed.

[SushiNushi]

Donnie I know this is a super old thread but I just found it and your description reminds me of my DC, also now 14 months. I'm terrified of what's going on with her. What happened with your son in the end? I'm hoping for some words of reassurance (if you're even still ok Mumsnet...)

[SushiNushi]

*on Mumsnet, that was supposed to say