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How to stop a thumb sucker?

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Napsalot · 09/03/2013 11:30

I have a 3 year old thumb sucker -took dummy away at 4 months and he found his thumb :-( He sucks it when he is nervous or unsure, when he is thinking, and during sleep. Basically anytime of the night and day!

We are going to embark on eliminating this. Any tips on where to start?

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ZuleikaD · 10/03/2013 16:54

cloud that article is complete bollocks. Tears do not "contain" cortisol - cortisol is a stress hormone produced in the brain when a child is in distress; tears are one outward sign of distress. There are myriad reasons for thumbsucking, including simple relaxation. Not to mention the fact that plenty of thumbsuckers started doing so in the womb, so it can't possibly be a reaction to parents 'failing to listen' when they cry.

OrangePetals · 10/03/2013 17:02

I thought thumb/dummy sucking replicated breast feeding. So is it wrong to comfort a baby by feeding them?

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 10/03/2013 17:10

I feel that a few weeks of upset as a toddler ( which will be forgotten) far out weighs the stress and confidence issues and risks of major dental works when they hit 9/10/11 and appearances matter more. After all a 2/3 ur old can just grab another teddy.

5madthings · 10/03/2013 17:14

Our dentist has said as long as they stop by the time their adult teeth is coming through its OK.

Ds4 will be five next week and sucks his thumb but only at night time. He has never sucked it at preschool or now in reception, heis too busy!

5madthings · 10/03/2013 17:14

zuelike we gave the 20wk scans PUC if ds4...he was sucking his thumb! And did so from birth.

cloudhands · 10/03/2013 17:23

Zuleika, I'm not a scientist but I've read lots of sources about the hormones contained in tears. The most famous study was done by Dr. William Frey, who studied tears caused by onions to crying for emotional reasons, and found that the tears cried for emotional reasons contained stress hormones.

Crying is a way the child relieves distress, and one aspect of this, is reducing the amount of stress hormones in the body.

the article I linked to isn't about the scientific claims, but has some great ways to help children release the feelings, that make them want to suck their thumbs. Here are a couple that talk more about crying research.

Health benefits tears

Daily Express Article health benefits of crying

you're right, babies do suck their thumbs in the womb, but I think when thumb sucking goes beyond infancy then it's for comfort reasons.

As a long term thumb sucker who was also bullied at school, I'm pretty certain that if I'd felt safe to express my feelings, get help about my situation, and some connection with my parents, then I wouldn't have needed to suck my thumb to supress my feelings.

It's a big paradigm shift, to think that sometimes the best thing we can do, is to listen to our children when they are upset, rather than trying to distract or stop the crying as quickly as possible, but the health benefits of tears are pretty well-documented.

cloudhands · 10/03/2013 17:27

Oh and I would definitly not recommend simply forcing a child to stop sucking her thumb. I'd read the Hand in Hand parenting website, (where my article came from) which has some ideas about how building close connections with our children, can help them to release their feelings.

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