Background DD (nearly 5 now) described as a lovely child a school who is always well behaved and bright. Bit of a loner but seems happy with it. However she is noticeably clumsy there, frequently falling over, tripping etc as well as struggling to hold pencil in the pencil grip. This is so noticeable she is being referred and we've agreed. How does that work, does anyone know / been though this?
Meanwhile, at home she behaves like a little shit most of the time. Has basically a huge issue with accepting authority and will attempt to get me involved in endless arguments about the most tedious things, like ITEM - going to the toilet. She will not go, even though she is at the point of wetting herself she refuses. Chatters incessantly. Is oppositional even to treats - when I offered her TV whilst I fed baby DS she said she didn't want to watch it! Will pull faces and talk gobbelygook, pretend not to hear, get stroppy, tell me not to tell her what to do, get clingy and demand ongoing attention when her brother is crying. This evening DS told her to put pyjamas on, she 20 mins later was still running around her bedroom doing forward rolls and creating chaos; during that time I asked her twice to put her pyjamas on. DH came back in the room and gently chided her. Massive meltdown followed with endless whingeing. He spent an hour explaining to her that she needs to be good and not make us sad. She said she didn't care just wanted to do what she wanted to do and us not tell her what to do and that mummy was naughty for telling her off!!!! BTW she has previously said that she was going to hit me or kick me and her baby brother as a direct reaction to being chided. How can she be so good at school and so annoying at home?