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has anyone else's child NOT had separation anxiety?

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starlover · 02/05/2006 21:41

DS is 15 months and he has not yet shown even the slightest sign of separation anxiety.
He is happy to do his own thing wherever we are, he has NEVER been clingy. he also hates having cuddles.

We went to a new toddler group when he was about 10 months old and he just shot through the door without a backward glance and was happily playing when i found him.

He is the same now. Today we were walking through the park and he wandered off to look at some flowers. I called him and he vaguely looked in my direction... I called him and he wouldn';t come (i know, i know he's only 15 months!) but then I said "bye bye" and walked off and he just waved to me and went the opposite direction!

He seems to have no fear at all. Don't get me wrong I adore how independant and gregarious he is... but is it worrying that he has shown no signs of separation anxiety? I keep reading about how it's an important stage of development...

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leogaela · 03/05/2006 13:11

I haven't read all the posts on this thread but will definitely try to later.

DS is clingy when I am around if we are at home, he is sick or tired and loves cuddles. But otherwise he is exactly the same (14 months), never looks back when we drop him of at nursery, goes up to strangers and and grins at them, wanders off in the opposite direction if I am trying to get him to follow me! I was also worried, but read that it is a sign that he is confident and very, very secure.
My main worry it that I will take my eyes off him and he will be gone :(!

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starlover · 03/05/2006 13:13

oooh lots of replies! looks like it is more common than I thought.

all the books bang on about how it's such an important stage of development that I was beginning to wonder if he didn;t do it whether it was an indication that something was wrong.
or else he just doesn't like me! lol

i do feel a bit sad that he doesn't seem to care whether i am there or not, never asks to be picked up and won't have a cuddle... but hey, that's life I guess!

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starlover · 03/05/2006 13:16

leogaela i feel the same about him wandering off! have to watch him like a hawk.

We went to kew with some other mumsnetters and he went to play on the grass with lockets' dd1 and they were away off into the distance without a backward glance!
cue much shouting and chasing from the grown-ups! lol

i feel mean keeping him in the pushchair the whole time but i do worry that as he is so friendly and so blimmin fast that he might get abducted or something scary like that

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kickassangel · 03/05/2006 14:18

dd was never clingy at all until after 2, now it's when it suits her,e.g. if i'm cooking dinner whe holds on to me and tries to drag me back to the lounge, if we're out, she'll walk off without even thinking i exist any more!

mumtoone · 03/05/2006 21:39

My ds didn't really experience seperation anxiety. He has been at nursery since he was 6 months so that might have something to do with it but I suspect its more his character.

AllieBongo · 03/05/2006 21:42

dd couldn't give a crap about me! Daddy is a different story though Grin

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