What do your children/their friends call you?

[Earlybird]

Do your kids call you "mum", or do they sometimes call you by your first name? What do their friends call you?

Discussion on Radio 2 at the moment about how kids calling adults by their first name shows a lack of respect, and undermines the authority of adults. What do you think?

DD 19 months calls me Mee-Mee. I wont mind Mum when she is older.
Dont like first name thoughs

dd3 calls me a bint

the rest of the kids call me mum

or mummy when they want something

I'm "mum" to dd1 (8) and "mumma" to dd2 (13mths). DD1's friends call me by my first name - I have no problems with this.

When we were kids, mum and dad's friends were always "aunty or uncle first name".

DD1 calls her teacher by her first name - they all do, it's school policy.

My first name's my name. I don't have a problem with being called by it. DD1 sometimes does, otherwise it's mummy or mum.

My ds's friends calme by my name, but when ds1 was rude (mildly) I made him write a letter of apology (he's 6) and he addressed it to Dear Mrs X, which I thought showed respect. I always remember trying not having to say a friend's parent name IYKWIM

I'm 'mummy' to my kids, and 'DS's mummy' to my DS's friends (he's 2.4). Just my name to my DD's friends (age 6).

My kids call me mum. They usually call their friend's mum's 'x's mum', to which I say 'yes, her name is ----'. It really wouldn't occur to me to tell them to call them Mrs/Ms X!

DD and DS call me Mum/Mummy.
Their friends, neighbour's children etc call me by my first name -can't imagine being called Mrs X ! It would seem much too formal and Victorian.
Teachers are still Miss/Mrs/Mr of course (my DD recently "discovered" what her teachers first name is, she was really excited and thought she was the only one to know this secret info!)

No I wouldn't want to be called Mrs Y, it was jsut ds1 wrote a letter and did it own his own. He also finised the letter with from as he said "I would only write love if it was a member of my family"

dd calls mw mama (18 months) ds calls me "mama" copying his sister, mum, mummy and he occasionally refers to me by my name! usually to get a laugh! I have always refused to allow dh to call me Mummy or Mum when he is not talking directly to the children! so my children regularly hear me called by my name-it makes me laugh when ds does it.
I am also called by my name by ds's friends. I would consider anything else odd.

I don't mind when dd's friends call me by my first name; it's my name after all, it's what they hear their parents call me and it's what I prefer to be called. Most of them call me Mrs though, as I help out at school and that's what they call me there.

Dd calls me Mummy, although she will sometimes use my first name to try and wind me up. I don't think I would mind if she wanted to call me by my first name later on though; I don't think it shows lack of respect. Respect is about far more than whether you call someone by their name or not.

DD is a little young at the moment for it to be an issue but does sometimes call me mummy ! Would't like her to use my first name I don't think. Adult friends (ie our friends or her friends parents) will be first names (we are to friends childrens). Mr and Mrs far too formal and really don't like auntie and uncle unless they are their auntie and uncle. We never had to say auntie x (or mr and mrs) as children and think I always had a good respect for adults. Don't think respect is caused by what name they call you/people by but how you bring them up to behave around adults.

dd1 and dd2 call me Mummy

their friends call me "Melanie and Kirsties's Mummy" i find it endearing, although i have said to call me by my first name, but i think they find it strange (they are only 3 yrs old)

i prompted dd1 to ask her friends mum's if its ok to call them by their first name. teaching her to be polite, etc (shes 3)

My kids - Mum/Mummy and very occasionally my name.

Their friends, my name or x's mum, although there's one child who just calls me mum.

DS (5) and DD (1) - "mummy" - not sure how long that will continue with DS.

Their friends - either my name or "DS's mummy". DD's friends not really sufficiently verbal to be doing "DD's mummy" yet.

Ds1 and ds2 call me "Mammy" (We're in Ireland) ds3 calls me Mamamamamama. Their friends call me by my first name, I don't think they know my surname! (It's different from the ds's surname)

mum & dad

if they want something
mummee & dadeeeee

if we are in a crowded place and dont register the word mum or dad they shout our given names

heard th tail end of the programme in the car, made me piss the last statement " a lady with a son called blue rang in to say that her son calles her by her given name.......2
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OOooohhh - I know a lady with a son called "Blue", wonder if it's the same person. We had a night out of mums with children in the nursery, and she told how when she used to give him his bottle at night, he'd go to the fridge and want her to drink from her "bottle" too - which was a bottle of champagne!

Right at the moment DS calls DH da-da and calls me a blank stare (but then he is only nearly 16 months and more or less preverbal).

My expectation is that he'll call us Mummy and Daddy for a bit, then switch to Mum and Dad. Parents of his friends where we are also friends with the parents I'd expect to be called by their first names -- at least, that's how we refer to them in front of him so I imagine is what he'll pick up. As he gets older I'd probably tell him to ask if he can call other people's parents (who we don't know so well) by their first names, but I'd expect them (or the vast majority of them, anyway) to say yes.

We called my parents by their first names (started of as Mummy and Daddy until I was about 2, then apparently I just started using first names and never stopped, and my siblings copied me). I don't think it betokened a lack of respect, but at the same time I don't plan to do things that way with DS. It led to far too many involved explanations and convoluted turns of phrase.

Custy when we were kids my Mum did a lot of voluntary work with kids such as Sunday School etc. When she was ignoring the "Muuum" we would say "Mrs xxxx".

Sorry no time to read whole thread, by dh's dd (age 21) has always called him by his first name, also her mother and grandparents. It's only odd for a bit then you get used to it and it's normal and there is no lack of respect or love there.