Please tell me it's just (another) phase :)

[MrsBigD]

Already had to send dd 4.5yo to her room twice today and that was before taking her to nursery!

First time was when I had to tell her 3x not to 'tickle' (rather roughly) ds's face (19m). I do increase the level of my 'don't do xyz' ... 1st time normal, 2nd time a bit firmer, 3rd time very firm with low undertone... at which point she had a tantrum. So off she went into her room...

Then after calming down she came out again and poked her tongue out at me because I 'dared' suggest that ds can watch his TV (Bear in the Blue House' for the next 15 minutes instead of the cr*p she wanted to watch)... so into her room she went again throwing herself onto ds's bed letting rip. Granted she can't throw herself onto her bed as her's the top bunk

Not to mention all the 'whatever's' she's throwing my way atm.

How long will this phase last?

Until she's 11, I should think.
This is the phase that convinced me that DS was actually old enough to go to school - a grown-up swagger.

Only 11, I'd have thought about 24 at least!!! . Sorry, sounds tough. Lots of counting under your breath I should imagine, whilst wishing you could throttle her. Hang in there.

My DD is doing exactly the same - she is 4 next week. Everything seems to be a confrontation. She will argue black is white and left is right. We have the tongue poking, name calling (everything is 'horrible'), pet lipping threenager from hell. She has had more tantrums in these past two weeks than in the past 6mths! Having spoken to my friend who has two older girls, she says they did exactly the same to her just before they started school and she had a summer of hell with each.

I am going to try to learn to chill and just repeat my new mantra of the moment - 'school in September', deep breath, 'school in September'....It is all very well choosing the battles you want to fight etc., but I find I cannot ignore a wilful defiance, try as I might!

and what's worse... she's an angle in nursery and usually very good when the nanny looks after them... so she's definitely set to test mummy... at one stage this morning she was sobbing in her room 'I want papa'... who had he been there would have tapped her bum for the way she was behaving... and she KNOWS that!

Oh and the 'You're not my friend anymore' !!! WTF?! I just tell her that doesn't matter... I'm her mother

Thank god its not just me. DD 3.5 years old and hideous! Is really horrible to her 10 month old brother and defiant to say the least. Am telling myself exactly the same thing...school in September....school in Septmber....roll on!!

This is far worse than I imagined and people just larf and roll their eyes when I tell them....liket ose how they'd handle it if they had her!

Debs... you'll find if 'they' would have her she'd be a right angle