For the love of god - get the fuck to sleep.

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Dd has generally been a crap sleeper since she was tiny. There are a couple of times where she has slept through all night in her own bed but at 22 months no more than a handful.
She has always been quite clingy. Can amuse herself but likes to be close to me all the time. Going to the loo alone is now a luxury!
We had got in to a great routine of bath,bottle, 2 stories and bed. She was going down awake. Ok so she didn't sleep through and ended up in our bed at some point most nights. I was getting a break for a few hours in the evening and able to do some school work.
However, we are back to square one and she is screaming if being left. Last night she screamed for 5 hours with me going back and forth. I've tried leaving her. I've trying staying until she is asleep. You name it - I've tried it and I am so fed up.
DH is,working late again and I want to fill in a job application. I'm not going to be able to do it as she is stuck like glue to me.
This is also the reason that DH doesn't want another child - the fear of another non sleeper is just too much for him.
We drop her at her grandparents so we can go and sleep.
Argh! She will be all grumpy when I have to get her up for nursery in the morning too.

A couple of questions to start narrowing down the potential issues:
Is she at nursery full time? Is she getting enough sleep there? Too much sleep there? What do the nursery people do to get her to sleep?
Does she have a comfort item or similar (blanky)?
Does she get a lot of one on one time with you - talking, playing etc?

She is at nursery 3 days a week, has been for 7 months. They can't get her to sleep much either. Like at home can sleep for 45mins on a good day now but some days just won't go to sleep there either.
She has a cuddly toy and a singing seahorse that she has had since she was tiny.
She also gets a dummy too.
The hv just said some babies don't need much sleep - not very helpful.
I think that answers everything but can't check on the phone. I'll post this and get back to you.

She gets lots of one to one time with me. She also spends quality time with her daddy, grandparents and aunties. But she is a mummy's girl and wants to hold my hand or stroke my face all the time. She is content at nursery but apparently asks for mummy quite a lot. I had hoped she would have grown out of it by now, bless her.

I am so sorry you have this issue and I can sympathize as we had a non-sleeper too. After trying all avenues, at 18 months or so, we did hardcore CIO. I know this is not for everyone but after a couple of very stressful evening and nights, DS started going to sleep on his own, and most importantly, STAYED asleep. Up til that point, we had a 30 min napper, and a 5-10-times-a-night waker. Even now, occasionally he reverts and usually one night of 're-training' does the trick. Don't know if you've managed to leave your child to cry until they fall asleep, but might be worth considering if the no-sleeping is becoming unmanagable for everyone.

On a side note, DH and I also contemplate not having another child for this reason. Not only have the past 2 years been a blur, but our relationship has suffered incredibily because of it.