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SpanishFly · 18/02/2013 08:56

My 26mo ds is loving playing control games, eg won't listen to the word no att all.But any time we ask him to di something he shouts NO at us. Even when I try to make it a game or whatever. As of today I'm going to try not saying it at all, and rather distract him or find a way to avoid any sort of power struggle.
The main issue we have, though, is at the dinner table. For the past few months he has refused point blank to sit in a high chair to eat, so he kneels on a dining chair. This is fine mainly, except if dinner is something he's decided he doesn't want to eat. Then he just says "all done" and pushes his plate away then says he wants to go and play.
So my question is, do we just allow him to leave the table to go and play? If he's hungry in 20 mins do we offer something else or put the same food back in front of him? Or shouldn't he be given anything else til the next "proper" snack/mealtime? Or do we simply leave his food out, and he'll come back to it if he's hungry? I'm not so keen on the last option cos it means he'll just pick and choose when he eats.
He eats dinner with his brother each evening. Because of the shifts I work, dh and I can't have a sit-down meal til 8pm.
We've been praising ds1 when he eats his dinner to show ds2 that just eating will get praise (ie we're not forcing him to clear his plate if he's not hungry).

Any suggestions would be great - thank you!

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ZuleikaD · 18/02/2013 12:19

Let him get down and then no more food till next scheduled snack/meal time.

NaturalBaby · 18/02/2013 14:33

My 3y old is like this and I find him very difficult to manage at mealtimes. He won't come to the table when I call him then gets upset when certain things have run out or I haven't got what he wants, then he runs off the second the last mouthful is in and comes back 5 minutes later saying he's still hungry. He really struggles to focus and concentrate so I am being quite flexible with him and explaining consequences a lot (I've just tidied everything away/ds1 ate the sandwich because you said no when I asked) but I find it difficult to deny him a drink or food because he is skinny and going through a big growth spurt. If he wasn't so hungry and eating so well then I'd be more strict.

I do make him wait till he's swallowed and ask him if he's finished, then make him tidy his things away so he can see for himself that the mealtime has finished.

SpanishFly · 18/02/2013 21:24

Ah that's a great idea, asking him to help tidy it away. I'll be trying this on my next day off. Thank u.

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