My 6 year old is wetting her pants everyday..help!

[george02]

Since starting school she comes home with wet pants which now I notice is an everyday occurance. She is dry at night and will go to the loo if needed. She seems to be happy to sit in wet pants all day and most days she comes home saturated. Have tried rewards, no joy. Am going to take her to the doc to rule out infection. Noone else a seems to have this issue in her school..help. Any advice gratefully received!!

is she worried about asking to go to the toilet?
any idea what time of day it happens? a child at the primary school i helped out at would wet themselves while in assembly, once we knew which child it was the whole year group had to go before assembly and it stopped, we think child was worried about asking to go infront of so many people, sounds strange to us that its preferable to wet themselves but think children think differently.

Thank you for your message. It happens throughout the course of the day. In particular if she is super busy playing. Everytime I ask her we have a different answer. She has said she is too scared to ask but then it started at home as well, when she has the ability to go to the loo whenever she needs. My instinct is that it has become a bad habit, not bothered about having wet nicks and doesn't want her day to be interupted by going to the boring toilet. But I need to be sure..

have you tried i quiet word with the teacher / ta??

try to get her to see that yes its annoying to have to go to the toilet but everybody has to do it. i would say that your probably right about not wanting to stop playing, some children just dont like asking for toilet.

could you send in spare knickers or do you not think that would help?

have you asked her if she can feel it before it comes? has she used the toilet at school at all?

if you think is infection take her gp, they may also have some useful suggestions (or not)

DS1 is 7 and not yet reliable. it's in his IEP that he is directed to the loo at specific times, he's working towards remembering himself. Sympathies, it's horrid.