How to get a child to realise they CAN get out of their bed?

[olivo]

I realise this is the opposite of the problem that many people have, but we have a 3.6yo who does not ever get out of bed by herself. To be fair, she rarely needs the loo in the night, but if she does, she shouts us ( she is upstairs from us) and when she wakes I nthe morning, she sits and shouts until someone goes up.

I have tried telling her she can come down to our room now that she is a big girl but with no luck. Any tips please?

No help but if you find out can you tell me. Ds is nearly 7 and still sits in bed and yells first thing in the morning.

Is she frightened of going down the stairs by herself? DS used to shout in bed till someone ie me, turned the landing light on for him.
Course now he's older we have the opposite problem.

DD is 3.3 and has only ever got out of bed once. I hit her with the bedroom door when I opened it because I wasn't expecting it.

I'll be interested in the answer too. She's not frightened if anything as far as we know.

Don't think she is scared. They have a night light on their landing. I have told her she can go in and see DD1 across the way,as she is always up early but has to play in her room till at least 6.30.

I suppose she could be scared in her own actual room . As it is very dark. I have tired to stay at from a night light actually in her room.

With ours, we played on our bed during the day, getting in / out / round / under the duvet etc.
Both boys will happily get out of bed in the mornings, but DS1 won't go to the bathroom on his own at night (DS2 is still in nappies). We have just (at 3y9) managed to persuade him that in the morning, he can open our door, and then go to the bathroom on his own (he won't do it with our door shut!). A friend has a 4.6 who won't go to the toilet at night on her own.

Would a couple of toys put in her bedroom each night (after she's asleep) encourage her to get out of bed without having to face the stairs?

Good idea, next, I could set u last couple of her happy.and sets. She has a lamp on the end of the bed which she knows how to work. I wonder if she thinks that the bed guard actually stops her from getting out? Maybe we too need to practise!

hmm we never did bed guards! Just let them fall out of bed a few times (on to a spare duvet on the floor), and they seem to stay out now.
DS2 is only 22 mth (climbed out of the cot at 20 mth), and doesn't have a bed guard.
How would she react if you removed it?

Not sure. SHe only came out of a cot at about 2.5, was never bothered about getting out, and had a big girls bed at just over 3, with a guard. SHe would def fall out, DD1 only took hers off at 6, and still rolls out a lot

Could try that, but maybe not till the next holidays, in case the sleep bodges up!

We've put a light on a timer switch. It comes on in DSs room at 7.30. He waits for it too! Then he can get up and play or come to our room. We do also still have the baby monitor on since we're upstairs and I wouldn't hear him. If he's unhappy he talks to us over the monitor; we can reassure him without getting up.

Timer light is a good idea. We ditched the monitor a couple of,months ago as it was disrupting Dhs sleep and it wasn't waking me