5 years on & still so jealous

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Ds1 is 10, Ds2 is 7 & Dd is 5.
The problem is that Ds2 is sooo jealous of Dd. He goes out of his way to antagonise her, is rude to her and ruins whatever she is doing. When we are all together he sucks the joy out of our time together.

We have talked to him rationally, ignored his behaviour and now I just get so angry with him.

I am at breaking point. Dd & Ds1 are very close and have a lovely relationship which I hope all 3 of them will have.

Any ideas or experience of such jealousy??

no experience I'm afraid but I've seen Siblings without rivaly book reccomended - worth a look for ideas

No advice I'm afraid, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone and I am in a very similar situation.
DS1 is almost 8, DS2 is 3 and DS3 is 2. DS1 and DS3 are very well behaved (most of the time) but DS2 is hardwork, he spends his whole time hurting his brothers especially the youngest. He destroys anything they make and takes whatever toy the youngest is playing with. This is a 24/7 thing and days out are always spoiled by DS2's aggressive behaviour and jealousy of his brothers.

I find it totally exhausting and am running out of ways to cope with it. Sadly DS3 is starting to copy his brother a little bit, especially at Toddler Groups (snatching toys from others and shouting at them) so I know it's affecting him as he is usually so sweet natured.

I truly believe DS2 should have been an only child as he is well behaved when he's not with his siblings. Will watch this thread with interest!