Self settling during the night

[AJ2511]

Hi all my DS is nearly 4 months old. He has always slept well and wakes twice in the night which I'm happy with as he is BF. When he first goes to bed at 7 he self settles with minimal or no fuss. How do I transfer this to night feeds though? He becomes very fretful very quickly when put down awake in the night. I'm very reluctant to let him cry it out like we trained him to do at 7 as we live in a semi-detached house and I'm terrified of waking the neighbours.
Any suggestions or advice gratefully received - thank you in advance x

He just wants a cuddle and some reassurance. Cry it out in a 3 month old is very IMO. The first 6 months are about trust, trusting that when you cry someone will come, when you're hungry someone will feed you etc.

You trained him to cry it out?
Why?
He's a tiny baby who needs love, cuddles and reassurance that you're there.
Please don't let him cry anything out until he's quite a bit older, there really is no need.

As for night settling, I feed my baby, pop him on my shoulder and gently oat his back while rocking him very gently.

He's asleep back in bed in a minute or so if having his feed.

And as for the neighbours-it's hard cheese for them while baby is so small. I doubt a newbie screaming will disturb them much.

All mine got fretful and upset at this age if put down awake in their bed at night. I think it's unusual for a baby not to tbh (though not necessarily a bad thing)

If he knows you're there did him when he needs and wants you he'll be more content.
If he doesn't know if you're coming if not hes bound to fret quickly.

I don't mean to sound so harsh, and its difficult to judge what's best for your baby with all different 'methods' and info about. But Pls don't leave your little one to cry