Two under two. How do you not raise your tone of voice?

[Littleraysofsunshine]

I end up having to raise my tone to say to dd1, no! Be careful! Or! Can you not do that please!. For example after having asked her about three times before... I don't agree in smacking, I always try to ask her why she's done certain things, how she's feeling etc. but sometimes I have to end up shouting for her to listen. I don't want to HAVE to shout for her to listen. Sometimes she knows when I mean no and sometimes she just doesn't listen.

And how do you deal with saying things in a raised tone when you see her unintentionally hurt younger dd...? As in playing with her but being a bit too rough (like a normal toddler) I just end up snapping and saying no! Got to be gentle! Like this... But most times have to be shouting kind of?

She is absolutely great, the thing is , she is very advanced. So I think sometimes she knows too much? For her small body!

Also when she is sad she says "no mummy!!!!!!!!!! No Dd2,,,,,,,. Even when we haven't done anything. Just airing her frustration at us. Which upsets me as she's obviously only got the word from me. no.

I wish i had the answer. I will be watching this thread. I have two under 4 now and i am constantly having to remind ds1 to be careful. As for her saying no to you i think that's perfectly normal at her age as she tries to gain independence. I am convinced that at that age they would tell you no even if they'd never heard the word, it seems hard wired

She knows when she's over stepped the mark most times and does say sorry. Gives hugs and kisses.

Yeah I guess being two, they're now understanding they're not attached to mummy anymore!

Some days I just think, 'wow Ive had to say NO so many times today '

More than anything I just need to try and not raise the tone. (Very hard when she's just accidentally knocked dd over) it's not intentional, she's just a ball of energy with no fear = 100mph. Lol normal at this age!