Could I please ask why ur routines are for 19 month olds and even possibly with a newborn

[Cupcakemummy85]

Just wanted a few routines to compare mine too as I'm expecting this week and I'm litreally loosing sleep over my dd routine and what it will b when baby gets here. I've read the gina ford to get an idea of a guide line but I wanted to see how real people do it :) dd's bed time is getting later and later and I'm not sure how it's happened. She just cries when I try to put her to bed at her old bed time of 7/7.30. Anyway, routines will b much appreciated. Thank you :)

Is she overtired at bedtime, thus crying? Does she need a longer wind-down before bed? Maybe a long bath with lots of cups and jugs to play with? Maybe she can also sense that your baby is due and is a little upset. You must be tired too!

My DS is 2.3 and still naps 1230-2.30 or longer if I let him. He's in bed by 7 and often chats in his cot for a while but doesn't mind going to bed. I'd sooner have him nap in the day so I get a break.

I also have DD2 who is 13 months and she naps at the same time as DS so it's very peaceful right now!

GF's guide is excellent. Indeed, it's not for everyone as it is considered to be rigid but if you are happy to follow instructions and get a solid schedule in place it can help. Mine certainly didn't do it perfectly (unlike the babies she describes in her book which were all perfect ) but it certainly helped me get a semblance of order each day. And I like the early bedtime.

All I would say is that it will be hard at the beginning with your NB and DD getting used to the change but stick with it and things do get easier. Mine were 14 months apart and I found MN to be really supportive when I was stressed about what it was going to be like on the other side.

My DD is 19 months and i have a 9 day old DS

We used to put DD to bed at 7pm every night (she wakes at 8am and has a 1 hour nap around 1pm) but now we are going with the flow for a while. Last night for example she went to bed at 8.15pm (had a late nap at 2 for an hour and a half) and woke this morning at 9am.

My advice would be please dont put too much pressure on yourself, enjoy your new baby and make lots of fuss of your DD, if she is anything like mine she will be delighted to have a new baby in the house even at such a young age.

Congrats and you will be fine x

Watching with interest here. Have 15 month old DS and am 34 weeks pg with his brother. Am terrified!

I had a newborn when DS1 was 18.5m..He was still in a cot.Our days were something like this:everyone got up 7.45 ish.We'd do an activity eg go to a playgroup all 3 of us,come home ,have lunch 12 ish,go in cot for nap 1-3.Afternoon activity/park/walk /shops,tea at 6,bathtime 7,back in bed 8ish.Honestly,fitting in a new baby with the toddler routine was the easy bit.The behavioural change and outright jealousy towards the baby was something I was not prepared for and struggled with for months!DS2 is much more easygoing as just to fit in really.

Sometimes I think my dd cries because I've left her to go to sleep and it's not that she's not tired. There are times when she cries a long time when I put her to bed in the evening like tonight I wonder if napping her is the right thing. as she takes ages to go to sleep but once asleep will sleep for an hour and a half. An then I think to myself she must not b tired but perhaps seeing me leave the room is distressing for her but I've been leving her awake since I stopped breast feeding. It breaks my here when she cries and I can't switch off to it. Dh is sick of me talking about her sleeping, pooing and eating. But like he has a job, so do I and its her. With the next baby coming its making me loose sleep because I think how will we all got into a routine but I see it is possible. I can feel another sleepless night coming on lol

This is our routine and perhaps some one could tell me if
I'm goin wrong somewhere:
7.30 wake up, milk
8.00 breakfast
9.30/10 play group, activity
12 lunch
1.30 - 2.30/3 milk + nap (although today it was 2pm-3.30pmwhoops!!)
3.30 activity, soft play, shops, round grandparents
5/5.30 dinner
7.15-7.30 bath
7.45 milk + bed

That's what it pretty much is everyday. And she has quite a few milks cause that's the only way to get her to take her medicine, movicol.
Does this routine seem ok. I try and get her out as much as possible but she seems so distressed when I put her to bed and leave and I've stayed until she is asleep a few times and she just thinks I'm playing. :( I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall and second guessing all my decisions as a mother. So crap at the this!! Lol

Your routine sounds absolutely fine for her age,you are doing everything right.There was another thread on here a few days ago about "Do you sit with your toddler to help them go to sleep?"There were loads of replies and the main conclusion was that some children need that company for comfort,some don't.18 months is still a sensitive age and she may just need that reassurance that you are around.She will be tired,especially if she then sleeps for1.5 hours and all night.You can sit with her and cuddle/feed your new baby too .You sound like a very caring mum & you will be ok x

Thank you Beatrix. That's an extremley nice thing to her and has really made me feel better. It just throws me when she changes so quickly. One minute gets off to sleep perfectly next minute screams for at leat five mins. I know five mins isn't long but it is for me especially when I think it might b the last night I see her before dc2 is born. It must b me walking out the room that she hates as she is obviously tired. I'm going to c if fresh air and a run around this afternoon helps with the getting off to sleep. If not then I know it really is me leaving the room she doesn't like.
And if u say her routine is fine then I can relax about that a bit more and hopefully the baby will fit in just fine with us.

I have a 19 month old DD and our routine is very similar to yours except shifted about 1/2 hour earlier. I have found she is a bit up and down at the moment. We have just moved her bedtime from 7 to 7.30 and she seems happier. some days she naps for 1 hour, sometimes 2.5. Some days she wants me to stay with her when she goes to sleep, sometimes shes happy to just go into her cot awake. I have decided to just go with her a bit - shes so busy learning new things and skills that her little head must be buzzing!