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Major public tantrum - help me!

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babygsmum · 25/04/2006 19:45

Hi, on our way home this evening, the only bus that turned up was none buggy friendly and absolutely packed. My 2 year old daughter (naturally) wanted to explore the bus once out of the buggy. For safety, and as the bus was so packed, I had to insist on her sitting on my knee. Cue major wobbly - that's fine - happy to ignore and attempt distraction, however Gillian is having none of it, and graduates to screaming, scrathing, biting, hitting, kicking, hair pulling and knocks my glasses off my face. There was no space to time her out, the bus was hot, crowded and uncomfortable, so I could empathise with her frustration, I was aware of every eye on the bus looking at my normally pleasant, happy, beautiful daughter and judging her as a naughty girl. I suppose what I'm looking for is ideas on how to control this better if it happens again, because I'm so upset now about how angry she became and how violent she became. Help!

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starlover · 25/04/2006 19:47

well i am a mean mummy... but i'd have put her on the floor and ignored it.

carwillin · 25/04/2006 20:11

Don't know if I can offer advice but I had this in a very busy Doctors surgery this morning with a stroppy 21mo. I am also a mean Mummy and just put him on the floor to scream it out. Everyone was looking (and probably judging) and even the HV popped her head out at one point but it only lasted five minutes (very long minutes) and he was up charming everyone again.

Sorry I can't be more helpful, but offer my sympathies.

MamaG · 25/04/2006 20:16

Think you did the right thing really, you had to keep her safe even though she was being a beastie!

Before i had my children, I would have sat there thinking what a naughty girl, but now I just think "ahh. Toddlers".

We've all been there hun!

Angeliz · 25/04/2006 20:20

All the Parent will have sympathised and empathised. All the non Parents will have judged and think that when they have kids there's no way they'll behave like that but.........their time will come so don't worry about other people.

It sounds so simple but the only thing that i find really works is distraction every timeSmile
Maybe you could have a chat with her when she's nice and calm about when she gets angry and how to calm her down?

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babygsmum · 25/04/2006 20:33

Thanks everyone - I'm normally a mean mummy and would put her on the floor and ignore it, however due to the situation of being on the bus, I really couldn't do it. It's good yo know I'm not alone - logically I know this, but it's easy to feel like you're the only one it's happened to when all the worlds watching!

I appreciate all your support

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BernieBear · 25/04/2006 20:37

I (read ds) had THREE full on tantrums in Waitrose this afternoon and we were only in there for about 15 minutes. S0DS law I met two old school friends I hadn't seen since Juniors, one of which had an 11 year old ds who is just off to boarding school because he is SOOOOOO intelligent!!!!! Blush

starlover · 25/04/2006 20:40

i'd have put my ds down even on bus. if it was really crowded he wouldn't have liked it, and if it wasn't he'd have probably fallen over.

either way he'd figure out it was better on my lap!

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babygsmum · 25/04/2006 20:52

I did think of this, but my little 'angel'!! is very independant - here first instinct would have been 'wow - let's explore - oh here's door - buy mama!'

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myermay · 25/04/2006 21:08

i do sympathise - you just have to do what you feel is right for her. b4 i had my boys i would think that the parent had no control and the child was a brat - HOWEVER, i now know that's such an ignorant attitude to have.

rabbitt · 25/04/2006 21:38

My little dd is 23months and have had one similar incident in the middle of boots which left pink shoe polish scuffs all over the lovely tiled shiney floor! It was the first time and its not a pleasnat experience so my symapthies are with you- but you know what, who gives a monkies if people are looking- you dont need to talk to those people agian, and YOU know how gorgeous your dd is 99.999% of the time .

rabbitt · 25/04/2006 21:38

My little dd is 23months and have had one similar incident in the middle of boots which left pink shoe polish scuffs all over the lovely tiled shiney floor! It was the first time and its not a pleasnat experience so my symapthies are with you- but you know what, who gives a monkies if people are looking- you dont need to talk to those people agian, and YOU know how gorgeous your dd is 99.999% of the time .

rabbitt · 25/04/2006 21:38

My little dd is 23months and have had one similar incident in the middle of boots which left pink shoe polish scuffs all over the lovely tiled shiney floor! It was the first time and its not a pleasnat experience so my symapthies are with you- but you know what, who gives a monkies if people are looking- you dont need to talk to those people agian, and YOU know how gorgeous your dd is 99.999% of the time .

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