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Possible Autism how to cope and support

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mummyemily · 30/01/2013 19:50

my BF sons nearly seven has been struggling at school, they have now said they believe that he may have autism, he does show signs of this disorder, aggressive, unable to show how he is feeling and doesnt seem to be able to read how others are, says very hurtful things that in my opinion a seven yr old shouldnt say, he doesnt socialise well with children and is struggling at school with the basics, Although he goes to bed as good as gold he is waking up anytime between 2.30 and 4am every morning and says he is scared but if he is in bed with his mum will sleep undistrubed until about 5.30. He is extremely creative and gets totally engrossed in his games.
My BF is a lone parent and I am now getting concerned about her health she is at her wits end and is struggling just to cope with everyday things as her son doesnt give her a minute, she is totally exhausted and her temper is fraying I know there are lots of parents that cope and I am trying to offer her as much support as I can but I dont know enough about the disorder or what help is availalbe to her. The doctor has refered son but it seems to be taking forever to get anything sorted, How do you cope? are there any support groups out there? she even mentioned getting social services involved as she just cant cope any more - tiredness and emotional. I have tried to help and have them over as much as I can to give her a break but my son also the same age doesnt what to spend time with her son because of his behaviour i have have to appricaite his thoughts because in truth he can be just horrible to my son, this or course has made BF even more depressed and now she feels like we dont what her or her son round. I want to help but in a productive way. Anyone else going through this or has gone through and how did you do it? any thoughts or advice please!

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Dededum · 30/01/2013 19:54

Post the same on the special needs board. There are loads of supportive posters.

mummyemily · 30/01/2013 19:56

thank you

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firawla · 31/01/2013 17:53

If you give a rough idea of location people might be able to suggest any support groups?
it does usually take ages from starting to go through assessment to getting a diagnosis, and its really frustrating. I've just been through this with one of mine although he is much younger, but now waiting to see if my others need assessed aswell. with your friend being a lone parent it must be quite relentless for her.
Hard to know what to suggest with your boy keep getting annoyed having them over but can you atleast go round hers in the evening sometimes when kids are in bed, if you have a partner or anyone to stay at home with your ds? support groups are good as you find people in the same situation and good for sharing info etc but personally I still need support from my best friends more, im sure she appreciates you being there and trying to support as best you can.
I'm not too sure what to suggest with her ds being older,cos alot of the support I've had for mine is all preschool based but hope you get some good ideas from the sn board and that your friend manages to find some support and things get better

honey86 · 01/02/2013 11:17

know how that feels, i am highfunctioning ASD my eldest boy is severe core autism and my middle boy has traits, and im struggling to even get the proffessionals on board this time, its soo frustrating n stressful Confused x

honey86 · 01/02/2013 11:20

i contacted the community paediatrician directly asked for a review x

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