Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Behaviour/development

Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.

Bin weevils, lying and naughty words!

3 replies

bigmouthstrikesagain · 29/01/2013 18:38

ds and dd1 (8 and 6) are Bin Tycoons, on the bin weevils website and are obsessed very keen participants in games and the limited chat facility.

This evening after picking ds up from afterschool club, we got back and dd1 and ds immediately start squabbling over using the pc. I said dd1 could use it for 15 min but ds had done 'something' on the pc first as he rushed into house before everyone else.

It soon became clear that dd1 had been banned from chat on BW for an hour for 'bad behaviour' - she said it was for using a bad word f-k. Ds was acting oddly dd was distraught but initially it seemed that dd had typed the word and ds had told her the word. I immediately banned them both from pc for the week.

They retreated from taking the blame for the ban almost immediately both blaming the other and dd claiming she is honest and didn't do it. They both can't be truthful thoughSad .

How can I look up the transcript of the banned chat ? Does anyone know how the site operates?

I have said that if I find out one of them is lying they will lose their account entirely. Is there a way to find out if neither confesses though? I hate the lies I really want to believe them both.Sad

dd did initially seem to say she typed it though so either she has convinced herself that she did not use the f word or she did lie to start with Hmm Confused

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Andro · 29/01/2013 20:58

I don't know anything about the site but:

Does each account have a separate password? Do DS and DD know each others passwords? If so, new passwords and keep them secret (you obviously need to know them). This helps to stop either one typing anything in on the other one's account.

Separate accounts on the PC and a strict 'no interference' rule - each DC only uses their own account.

Neither log on until a parent is present.

It doesn't help with the current problem but might help prevent future ones.

bigmouthstrikesagain · 29/01/2013 21:37

thanks for replying andro.

I have got to the bottom of it. Ds was lying - he typed the f word onto dd1 chat. The site was open on her account as she had been playing before we went to get ds and I had said she could go back to it. He got there first.

She had used the word a couple of weeks ago on the site and attracted a 10 min chat ban, so she was lying a little bit. Ds was lying and getting dd into trouble Sad

Only when I said I was going to contact the site find out exactly when the word was typed and cancel the account of the child who was lying did ds 'fess up. He did clearly feel very guilty and I have stuck to -the no further punishment if you tell the truth - line. But it was intense and I did grill poor dd as I knew she was lying about something.

the children all have seperate user accounts on the pc and it is in the living room but I am not standing over them all the time. Clearly they need a reminder of appropriate behaviour on line, but it is the sneakiness I hated. Need wine but as its a school night tea will have to suffice.

OP posts:
Andro · 29/01/2013 21:39

I'm glad you got it sorted.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page