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5 year old wants to 'snog' me.

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ritapardon · 28/01/2013 11:17

This is keeping me awake. We have a friend with a 7 year old that pretends to have sex with my little girl (by kissing her stomach I do not think that she actually knows what it is) and 'snogs' her poking tongue in ... It makes me feel sick to my stomach. My little one shows me and it could all be innocent learning and development, some of my friends have said it always happens and its how they learn. Others have said she is too young. its my little girls best friend and I have a real problem with her. She constantly tells my little one to do naughty stuff and I have to arm my child with sentences like "No, I will get in trouble if I do that and I will do want I want to do" They live opposite. I have approached the parents and dad was shocked that girl 7 was talking sex...as was teacher... mum said its typical of EYFS to talk of willies etc. I have a tendency to 'worry too much' and maybe over protect my daughter. I waited a very long time for her to come along and cannot have any more children. I don't want to smother her. The thought of approaching the mum again makes me want to run away.

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Mischeif · 28/01/2013 11:57

im having an issue at school where my daughter has supposedly said some quite graphic content, and i dont think its normal fr a 7 year old, i was called into school (Shes also 7 btw) and they said ''shes said this'' so ive got her home, and she has vehemently denied this, and bear in mind i had to use the word blwjb infront of my child, and asked her how she knows what they are - and why she is talking about them, for her to say, whats that?

I am now trying to get to the bottom of this, as either SHE is lying (which, tbh, i dont think she is, i know my kid and can tell when she is lying) or the other child making the accusations is lying - and why he would say those things. I want to know where she could have learned these words and terms (if it turns out she HAS said these things - im not blind enough to just say NO WAY MY KID WONT DO THAT), as it certainly isnt from home and she hasnt been unsupervised in any ways i could say oh, well maybe shes head something here or there. It could ONLY be from the school yard.

I'd strongly suggest you take it up with the mother, as they shouldnt be talking about these things and simulating sex. They shouldnt know what it means, and Im getting to the bottom of my own little saga one way or another even though it's horrible to think about. Personally, I want to make sure this doesnt happen again, Im telling the head teacher tomorrow, that if these accusations come up again, then Im involving the police, Il happily let my kid get a scare from them to make her realise what she could have been saying is wrong, and likewise, the other kid needs to know that serious accusations like that can get people in a lot of trouble and if he's found to be lying, he could get himself in a lot of trouble too

Don't let the other mum laugh it off if it's concerning you

courgetteDOTcom · 28/01/2013 12:51

At my daughter's school there's been an issue (new HT for 3 weeks and it's been stamped on!) with a group of girls pulling other girls skirts up/ trousers back to see look at bums, my daughter even had one putting her fingers into a split crotch seam so she could see. The new HT was horrified about it and had all the children involved and all the parents in within two days of hearing about it and left the children in no doubt of what would happen if she heard of it again. They're mostly 6/7 from what I can tell. They accused my daughter of being in on it (she's been one of the ones worst hit by it and it's made her ill from worry) but the HT doesn't believe them, she said she's (my daughter) horrified at the whole thing because she wouldn't dream of doing such a thing.

So I'd say that this is something to stamp on. The reaction of our HT and the horror from my 6yo says to me this isn't normal and something has to mess up a kids head to think like that. I wouldn't push the parents too much either, if they're being dismissive I'd be worrying about why (which seems to be the issue for the ringleader at our school).

ritapardon · 29/01/2013 09:57

Thanks for feedback. I have spoken to teachers who are so on the ball. The same person took a video of the kids in the bath which I am also freaked about. Getting them to delete it. Don't know how to get out of this one as they are such good friends and they live opposite us. I know they will dismiss me as paranoid and over re-acting.

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