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Does DS sound ok for a 2.8 year old

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ChazDingle · 26/01/2013 20:21

Sorry its long

In some ways he is advanced but in others he is behind. He started preschool in sept and i thought he was getting on well (which i think he is on the whole) but teacher has asked if he has probs with his hearing as he doesn't respond when they ask him to do something. I am 95% sure its nothing with his hearing and he's just ignoring them but have phoned HV to ask for a hearing test to rule this out. Preschool leader so its importtant to get problems if there are any picked up before they start school.

He is PFB so i've nothing to compare to. He does seem different to other kids and i've had at the back of my mind that there might be something wrong i've put things down to being a typical two year old but now preschool saying that has got me bit worried again.

He's really rubbish at every day things, what you might call life skills, things like trying to undress/ dress himself (won't even try), feeding himself (messes about and takes forever), just general everyday things really.

He seems to have no idea with things like bike riding, ride on toys etc. I see kids less than half his age whizzing round on ride on toys and he just plods around. I don't think there is anything wrong with his balance though as they have a balance rope at playground and he can walk all the way across that and is also a great climber.

Since being a baby he's alway been one of the more lively in a group, child going where they shouldn't etc. He has calmed down recently as he'll now sit and concentrate on TV or toys for a while.

He has a very very good memory. Example mum was in supermarket with him (they do go there everyweek) and she'd forgotton eggs and said out loud 'what aisle are eggs on' he said 9, they were. Then we found after that if you ask him virtually anything he knows what aisle number its on. Also if we're listening to music he seems to know what track number every song is on his CDs, so randomly in the middle he'll say this is number 8 and you'll check and it is.

He can count to about 180 that i've heard him count to and he knows the alphabet and letter names. He's also started recognising words in books or written down that he's seen in other places. We've never pushed him with these things its just what he seems to like and has done himself.

He loves playing with bath letters in the bath and out of the bath, quite often he will get two letters one in each hand and bang them together and sing a song, most of the songs aren't proper words just jibberish but i've noticed they seem to be the same songs depending on what two letters he is holding so there seems to be some logic in his mind.

He tends to get upset if out of routine but we don't have overly strict routines in our everyday life and this doesn't seem to cause a problem. Examples of where he gets upset with changes to routine- at preschool they go down one end of room at hometime and are called when parent/ carer there to collect them. he had been out to have his nappy changed as my mum was coming in to collect him so he could have just gone with mum then but he went mad and had to go down end of room and be called back like normal. At church group he goes to they didn't do colouring at the time when they do colouring and he went mad.

He is quite socialable and will randomly say 'hello lady' or 'hello man' to a random stranger. He is also quite loving and gives kisses and cuddles although sometimes i think he is abit over the top doing this with other kids.

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amazingmumof6 · 27/01/2013 00:36

he could be on the asperger's/autistic spectrum, borderline "level"

or it could be nothing, he's just a bright kid with a potentially high IQ, who likes his routine and logic and order and enjoys reading.

I was about his age when I learnt to read, and I still love reading. I kept on nagging my mum to spell things like shops signs then I just remembered the whole word.

I actually remember playing word games by looking at the cars' number plates, I made up the rules like I had to think of an animal for each letter or a fruit or whatever.
I still do this sometimes! I love playing scrabble and other word games, puzzles, sudoku, anything that is a logical or creative challange

I can not look at a picture or a mirror though if it is not "straight", it bothers me so much, I can not concentrate on anything else until I could adjust it or I have to turn away or even leave the room!!!

I also can not stand bad parking - it's the illogical waste of space that gets me.
I compartmentalize everything - I write lists and got a thing about boxes and wanting to use space logically/practically.

I'm admit that I'm a" recovering perfectionist" and although DH says I have slight OCD, I don't thinks so. nor do I have asperger's and I'm not autistic either. I just like things in a certain way.

I'm also very impatient and volatile and just can't stand certain changes or circumstances, and I was like that since I was little.

now I apologize about this rant, I know it's not a thread about me - I only wanted to say that a lot of things your son does are familiar to me and I'm fairly normal (I think, well I hope!Wink)
so if some of the behaviour is down to his character, that's unlikely to change.
if you worried that might be more contact your gp get and assessment.

amazingmumof6 · 27/01/2013 00:37

and the the not listening?

my DS1 was 4, watching Black Beauty, mouth open, utterly engrossed.
I called him 5 times from the kitchen, nothing. went to the room, called him again, nothing...
I ended up putting my lips to his ears and say "DS1 do you want ice cream?" - nothing! " do you want chocolate?" nothing!!!! it was hilarious, he didn't even look, he didn't hear. it happens!

selective hearing exists

MrsMushroom · 27/01/2013 00:39

He's quite young yet but there are a couple of things in your description of your DS which sound like it might be worth speaking to HV about....mainly the lack of response to his name as his preschool have pointed out.

He sounds lovely by the way...how is his language? Can he have a little conversation yet? Or follow an instruction like "Fetch your shoes" ?

what about his playing...does he play with toys in the usual way? Brumming cars, making tea in a toy teacup and feeding it to dolls or bears or to you?

amazingmumof6 · 27/01/2013 01:05

not responding to their name or a task at certain times rarely means there's a problem, unless they never respond!

my boys and DH do ignore me/others if they are too busy/ or just concentrating hard or even daydreaming!

apparently it's a male thing, they are able to watch football and block out the baby crying! just drives me potty! grrr...

loverstryst · 27/01/2013 10:07

Amazingmum...are you really qualified to make such sweeping statements as'he could be on the asperger's/autistic spectrum, borderline "level"

Shock

I think you should just suggest posters go to their GP instead of voicing such opinions.

amazingmumof6 · 27/01/2013 16:07

loveerstryst - it's not a statement it's an opinion - which is what OP asked for!

and yes I have some basic knowledge about these illnesses, thank you, enough to say there COULD be a problem!

and there rest of my post is going on about that he could also be perfectly normal.

my last sentence was this : if you worried that might be more contact your gp get and assessment

if you want suggestions, I suggest you reply to OP's post, instead of arguing with me....have a lovely day!Smile

loverstryst · 27/01/2013 18:45

If you have basic knowledge you'd know that ASD is not an illness but a neurodevelopmental disorder.

ChazDingle · 27/01/2013 18:52

thanks for the comments.

I got letter through to book hearing test so i think i'll have that done first rule out there isn't a problem with hearing, i'm 95% sure theres not.

Then will perhaps have more of a word with the playschool leader as at the minute i've only got everything 2nd hand though my mum as she picks him up (playschool has been told they can discuss anything with my mum so i don't mind).

His speaking is about average for his age and he is quite understandable to me and to other about as understandable as other kids his age. We can have a conversation with him. He can also follow instructions. He seems to play with toys in the usual way i think although he's not that into cars and pushing them around. He likes toy food and pushing his shopping trolley round and playing with his tea set. He likes the fisher price play family sets (old one's of mine from the 70s)

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amazingmumof6 · 27/01/2013 19:00

thank for correcting me, I didn't learn about them in England, so I'm sorry if my translation is incorrect, in my language we call it illness.

OP, I hope hearing test will be normal and he's ok.

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