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help needed!!!!!!!!!!

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melons11 · 23/04/2006 23:34

6yr old messing himself and leaving it wherever he playin. he says he left it 2 late cause he playin. this can't b true as last time he was right next 2 toilet. how do i deal with him?

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dolally · 23/04/2006 23:38

is it for attention Melons? a friend of mine's son did that, there was a new baby in the house. I wouldn't make a big fuss... I bet he's just trying to get noticed for some reason. (Awful clearing up for you though!)

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melons11 · 23/04/2006 23:45

maybe, his behaviour driving me batty. he not happy wi anything, gets what he asks for and it's not good enough. starting to think it's me. don't think our relationship very good at moment. but don't know how to change it. try to spend quality time wi him but end up getting annoyed cause of how he is.

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waterfalls · 23/04/2006 23:49

How do you mean, he gets everything he asks for?
Sometimes you need to say no in order to gain respect.

starlover · 23/04/2006 23:54

discipline!
if he does it then he either loses a privilege or gets an immediate punishment.

I would also make him clean it up

sallystrawberry · 23/04/2006 23:55

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melons11 · 23/04/2006 23:57

don't mean as in spoiling him. av 5 kids that would be impossible, mean let him decide what to do n it still not good enough, don't really know what i mean. getting to my wits end wi him, his behaviour is probably attention seeking but can't really do any more to split my time

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sallystrawberry · 23/04/2006 23:58

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 24/04/2006 00:04

Goodness me, how very brave for a first post, most of us lurk, then post.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 24/04/2006 00:05

meant to say something fairly tame.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 24/04/2006 00:05

I shall watch this thread with interest.

SaintGeorge · 24/04/2006 00:07

As will I LGJ, although I usually avoid txt spk psts.

sallystrawberry · 24/04/2006 00:07

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 24/04/2006 00:08

Thought it was just me.....

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melons11 · 24/04/2006 00:15

think i more confused than ever. do i beat him senseless, empty his room of all his belongings, love him to death(i do this unconditionally), ignore the problem and hope it goes away or take him to the drs.

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starlover · 24/04/2006 00:16

well it might be worth a visit to the doctors to make sure there is nothing physically wrong.

Plus, if it is just being naughty then the threat of telling the doctor may make it stop!

LadySherlockofLGJ · 24/04/2006 00:18

Strawb.............

But the chin aint hairy.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 24/04/2006 00:19

And the fingers are not fat and truckin.......so I can still manage it.

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melons11 · 24/04/2006 00:22

if it a medical problem that would b easy. if it emotional, where to start to help him through it.

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melons11 · 24/04/2006 00:25

fst things fst. get him checked out. x the nxt bridge wen get 2 it.

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waterfalls · 24/04/2006 00:26

????

starlover · 24/04/2006 18:47

if they decide that it isn't a medical problem then just get tough I think.
make him clear it up and if he still does it then start either punishing it or taking away privileges

KATIEBE · 24/04/2006 19:29

My son is 8 and still soils his pants. This is mainly down to constipation. We have been under the school nurse who has helped us loads. The doctor was useless.

starlover · 24/04/2006 19:32

katiebe... has he been tested for food intolerances?

I only ask as my cousin suffered from this for ages, however my aunt noticed that if she cut out dairy and gluten it improved.
GP refused to refer her for tests so she had them done privately and lo and behold! intolerant to dairy and gluten!

so she cut it all out completely and it worked wonders. She was free from constipation within a week

KATIEBE · 24/04/2006 19:40

No he has not been tested for intolerance. His constipation comes and goes, he can be fine for months and then gradually he misses a day going to the toilet and then it just escalates. Lukily we now know the signs and the accidents are getting less often. He has to clean his pants himself though that was the advice from the school nurse, a bit like bedwetting when they have to strip the bed!

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