What can I do to stop throwing?

[kbaby]

DD is 23 months and keeps throwing thigs. If shes finished playing with anything she throws it, if she has a tatrum shell pick up the nearest thing and throw it and the worst, if I ask her to give something to me she throws it ast you instead.
Its driving me up the wall. No matter how much I say throwing is naughty etc she carries on.

Why don't you try confiscating anything she throws? Ds is a similar age and works with him if he knows he's not going to see it again for awhile sometimes stops him. Other than that there is the naughty corner if she def understands what she has done is naughty. Doing this with ds since he has been 18 months and the threat of it more often than not stops him in his tracks.

I confiscate any toy that is thrown in a determinedly on purpose manner.

DS is 2.1.

He throws a complete wobbler if I take it away, but I just say "we don;t throw toys", put it up out of reach, and leave the room while he tantrums.

It doesn't happen often but it's something I won't tolerate.

I allow it back after a few minutes if he has calmed down, repeating about not throwing.

hmm thats the problem generally its not her toys she throws.
For example saturday in ikea she picked up a plate, I asked for it and she threw it on the floor. She threw the phone yesterday and a set of keys last night.
We put her on the naughty step after shes done it but it doesnt seem to be having any effect and because throwing seems to be spur of the moment we cant distract her 1st.

Don't keep saying it. Completely ignore her and walk out of the room when she does it. She'll so soon get bored when there's no reaction from you.

kbaby, my DS has been a determined thrower for ages, he's now 3.5.

I think on this one, pick your battles. My DS knows that I will be very cross indeed if he throws near other people and that if he breaks a toy, that's the end of that toy. But it is such a strong compulsion I don't feel right stopping him throwing his toys all the time. They are his and he has to learn caring for them appropriately, which he can only do by experience....obviously you mustn't put up with your DD throwing plates, I understand that, but can you sometimes bear with her if she's throwing things that aren't going to break or hurt?

It's just part of his make-up - in fact from our venture photo session, the best photo and the one that captured the essence of him at three years old, was of him laughing his head off, arms raised up and a toy above his head!!!

We have balls, and toys to throw in the garden and he has his freedom there. He has learned to throw more appropriately and I'm sure your DD will too, it is definitely a 'stage' and she won't do this forever!

However I am extremely tolerant, I know that, and put up with some things that others couldn't bear..just thought I'd respond as I know where you're coming from!