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O.D.D Anyone out there got any experience of it?

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mrspitt · 22/04/2006 14:16

Oppositional Defiant Disorder- Seems to be all the signs my ds is showing. I know some believe its just a lot if rubbish like my hv for example. Just wondering if anyone out there has ANY experience of it?

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themoon66 · 22/04/2006 15:09

Looking back at my DD's behaviour and attitude when she was aged 18 months upwards, I could have probably slapped the ODD label on her quite easily. After talking to another mum who was in her 60s with a DD of almost 40, I came to the conclusion that some kids are just stroppy little madams, as this lady's DD was also similar in behaviour. On the good side, at least they get their own way in life. My friend's DD now runs the local tourist department and won't take any crap from the blokes who work under her. My DD is 19 and doing a degree in the cut throat world of fashion, where she doesnt let anyone get the better of her either. Perhaps its just an early sign of a determined personality.

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mrspitt · 22/04/2006 15:48

Thanks for you're reply.
I am not the type of person who wants to slap a label on my ds but i think there has to be an explanation for his behaviour.
This isn't just an overnight conclusion this is behaviour that has been prevalent since a very young age. Only as kids get older they should become more understanding of boundaries etc but he just doesn't grasp or appears not to grasp basic rules etc.
He is a very determined little boy and always has been, that i can deal with but its the constant battle over everyday issues, all day every day sometimes to the point where it effects his safety.

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themoon66 · 22/04/2006 17:30

How old is he now? I was on the verge of asking for a referral to a child psychiatrist when my DD was about 4. It got to the stage where I was afraid to take her out in public. Supermarkets etc were a nightmare. I remember once her dad said no to something whilst out in the garden and she took the clothes prop and hit him so hard across his back she winded him... she was only 4 years old at that time too!! Her strength and temper scared me Shock.

Even now, at age 19, she can be trouble. Last week she nearly took my kitchen door off by slamming it in temper. I'd only questioned her plan to go abroad for the summer and work in Greece with NO medical insurance. For that one little question I got screamed at.

It's getting better though and the good person she is shines through on many occasions. My older friend (in her 60s) said 'remember all the good work you do with them over the years will eventually come back.' This is slowly proving to be the case.

Her little brother, on the other hand, is totally laid back and no bother at all. So it can't be something I did as a bad mother, as i've treated them both the same.

themoon66 · 22/04/2006 17:31

How old is he now? I was on the verge of asking for a referral to a child psychiatrist when my DD was about 4. It got to the stage where I was afraid to take her out in public. Supermarkets etc were a nightmare. I remember once her dad said no to something whilst out in the garden and she took the clothes prop and hit him so hard across his back she winded him... she was only 4 years old at that time too!! Her strength and temper scared me Shock.

Even now, at age 19, she can be trouble. Last week she nearly took my kitchen door off by slamming it in temper. I'd only questioned her plan to go abroad for the summer and work in Greece with NO medical insurance. For that one little question I got screamed at.

It's getting better though and the good person she is shines through on many occasions. My older friend (in her 60s) said 'remember all the good work you do with them over the years will eventually come back.' This is slowly proving to be the case.

Her little brother, on the other hand, is totally laid back and no bother at all. So it can't be something I did as a bad mother, as i've treated them both the same.

themoon66 · 22/04/2006 17:31

Ooops - I click post message twice coz I thought it hadnt gone. Sorry

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mrspitt · 24/04/2006 20:16

HI THERE
Ds is 4.5 and has been observed in nursery by the Ed Pysch but he is usually ok when he's there.
I have dd1 who is 2.3 and she is totally laid back and can be reasoned with and will listen so like you i know it can't be that i'm doing such a terrible job of parenting him.
Just starting to feel at a loss with him at the moment. He does have peaks ang troughs with his behaviour but it seems like a very long low!

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