DS behaves so differently for dad.

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DS is just 2 and behaves perfectly 'normally' the majority of the time as far as I'm concerned. However, when his daddy is around he is so different- shouts in his face for attention, demands demands and then 'shows off' - throwing things, banging and crashing and generally doing things he knows he shouldn't...
DH has had 4 months not working and looking after DS (although we kept him in nursery 2 mornings a week as unsure when DH would return to work. I work full time.) DH went back beginning of Jan and the two different behaviour types have become even more defined now. When DH was off work he did used to say DS would only do certain stuff with me., i.e. DH would say 'he won't wear those shoes for me' 'he doesn't eat tomatoes for me' etc.
I know some diffs in behaviour due to parenting styles is normal but this is driving me bonkers. When I talk to DH I feel like I'm laying a guilt trip on him for not being exactly like me in terms of patience etc. and I'm a bit of a stickler disciplinarian I'm afraid, it's the teacher in me.
DH was in another country for work for a few days and DS went to bed easily, ate all meals etc. without drama- it was so relaxing!!!
Also DC2 due any minute now...
Make DH 'follow' my style or allow for differences?
Thanks

The app is so rubbish, disciplinarian should be crossed out in shame

Bump for advice pls

What style of discipline does your DH display? If he's more laid back and a bit of a push over then your son will push the limits to see what he can get away with. My DS is different with my DH than he is with me - still capable of being a monkey with me but whether its getting ready for school or meal times or fun days out, I instil the same expectations of behaviour with him whereas my DH wants to be liked and adored by DS so will let some things go. Alternatively your DS has been used to being cared for my DH so his behaviour is his way of saying he's not happy with the change. Especially if you're expecting another baby, he's bound to feel a bit on edge. His acting out is his way of testing your feelings and affections towards him.
Your DH needs to get a bit tougher but in general things will calm down once the baby comes. Good luck!

Thanks tigersmummy, suppose it could be dad going back to work, but also DH def going down the 'mates' route already which I think worries me...

What does DH do in the way of positive attention?

What do you mean DH is going down the 'mates' route? Do you mean he's trying to be DS' friend rather than his father? Some parents DH suffer from this, a need to be liked as a person rather than respected as a parent. I can understand why that would worry you.
Is it difficult to approach DH re his discipline handling?