Stop crying or I give you a reason to...

[MrsBigD]

that's what my grand-dad used to say and boy was I tempted this morning with dd (4.5)... every little thing seemed to send her into a tantrum/rage/winging marathon.

Today she was allowed to take a teddy to nursery as they are reading 'Goldilocks'... but NO for once she didn't want to take anything into nursery, probably because she was allowed to.

So tried sneaking one into my bag just in case she changes her mind when we got to nursery... she found it and went ballistic.

Then I tidied away my stepper ... another fit because she wanted to play on it which she isn't allowed to do anyway

Then she wanted to do arts and crafts to make a sparkly crown ... sorry love not between breakfast and trying to get you dressed for nursery!

Then of course ds (19m) started to react to her incessent winging and started throwing his teddy at her... actually I think he was trying to give it to her but because she didn't take it...

And that was all within the space of 20 minutes!!!

I nearly lost it!

HELP!

At least she marches herself into her room for these 'fits' but still it is starting to really get to me. In the end I just stomped in there and said 'there is no reason for you to cry please stop it' in a rather harsh voice... which seemed to have an effect as mummy doesn't get loud very often. Then I stomped out again, did the dishes and ignored her...

But that's not a solution...

Anybody has any suggestions on how to dealing with this phase of 'long face drama queen'?

Sorry... rant over :)

well I think you dealt with it perfectly well - that's what I would have done.

I had a teacher once who said 'stop snivelling or I'll give you something to snivel about!' ah! happy days

thanks JT :)
sometimes I feel so inadequate because I have visions of scream & slap iykwim

You dealt with it fine. She didn't get your attention and you let her know why. I normally show them my hand as it "enough" and leave the room. If they still carry on I raise my voice. If they still carry on I open the drink!!

i dont liekt hat sentence

which one?

Stop crying or I give you a reason to...

cod neither do I like the sentence and I'm not using it... was just VERY tempted :)

all the parents (or a lot of them) when I were lass used to use it - it doesn't bother me, its just a saying, they never took any action - they didn't need to .

I suppose its not very pc now though!

Seems to me your reaction was the perfect solution. You asked her nicely to syop and then did the best thing in these situations and ignored her. It takes every cell in my body not to scream 'shut the ---- up' at my DD sometimes. I don't do it out loud but I scream it in my head as I walk away from the constant moaning. It's exhausting and we may be mothers but we're also human! My sympathies, you're having a bad day but coping well, just hope it gets better.

Thanks Unity... it has gotten better... I'm at work now

Could never understand that saying when I was a child.

The sheer frustration of looking screeching little darlings now makes me understand what they meant, but I don't use it myself.

Buy a pair of earplugs and enrol her into a drama group where she can let out her passions!

You did it just right and yes it is frustrating, but IME a drama queen will not change very much over the years to come so it is best to just laugh a little at the energy she is putting into herself and let it all qwash over you

My own little Drama Queen is now nearly 11 and is not changing, we now have the flung back head and "I wish i could just die" which always makes me giggle (don't think that helps her mood much though )

secure you made me laugh... I already have the 'so not fair' that makes me cringe
As for the drama group... stagecoach has a rather extensive waiting list in my area, not to mention the cost! :) but as I stem from a family of thespians (mum, dad and maternal granddad) she might have her career cut out for her

I like to coach my drama queen - "ooh, that was a good whine. Try again and put a bit more energy in it, really twist your face up, oh yes, thats a fantastic whinge. Now what about if you sit down and hide your face and sulk quietly for a bit, try that and see how how well you can do it". Seems to take the fun out of it...

I also do -

All that screaming/whining/crying is making me feel sad/tired/hurting my ears - please go and do it in your room.

Or, very matter of fact, "dd, could you just nip upstairs and look under your bed and see if you can find your happy face?"

Or sometimes I sit down and join in, which is most satisfying. And she ends up telling me off, because mummies aren't allowed to whine or have tantrums, apparently.

fruitful perfect!

MrsBD, perhaps when she is a little older you could let her set up her own drama club to rival stagecoach - with her background she could be well placed!

My DD's other one is to lay her arm along the end of her bed, lay her forehead on her arm and sobb with broken hearted abandonment last time I think it was because she only had long socks and wanted trainer socks - poor thing

fruitful I've done that a few times...
copying her rants and faces and it made her giggle :) and the 'you can do better than that'

secure... might just do that and get her to open a school and name it SPDQ the school for 'precious (or is it precouscious) drama queens' LOL