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My 5 year old ds goes mad when he has a playdate, it drives me crazy!

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Lottiegal · 14/01/2013 20:44

Every time my son has a playdate, he goes mental, and I mean rediculously excitedly crazy. All his normal behaviours go out the window and he runs around like a bull in a china shop, throwing toys, jumping off furniture, manically laughing and generally trashing his room. It's getting embarassing as the guest looks slightly scared. I've had to resort to almost reducing my son to tears by constantly asking him to calm down, putting him in time out etc. Now I've had to threaten no more play dates (which I have done before, which works for the next playdate, but then it goes back to his same antics) Also it's worse when some particular boys visit, like he's trying to impress them by being so naughty. I don't know what to say to the parents 'sorry but when your son visits, my son turns into a lunatic?!' probably won't go down too well. Not sure what else to do, or whether other experience this?

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Wobblypig · 15/01/2013 00:08

We had this ESP. The trashing the room and his sister's room. I assume it is a bit if over excitement with a bit of ' I'm the king of the castle' thrown in. There is probably some male animal parallel out there , lions or chimps. No advice but I don't think you are harbouring the antichrist unless of course I am too!

Skyebluesapphire · 15/01/2013 00:18

My DD 5 in March is exactly the same...

She gets excited, shows off, gets really silly and loud and trashes everything. She goes really over the top.

I just have to ask her repeatedly to calm down. It does my head in.

slowlycatchymonkey · 15/01/2013 10:41

Mine does the exact same. She is also 5.
She's an only so I try to keep her busy with play dates etc but by the end of it I feel ready to cry. Last week she ended up in time out twice within half an hour for being hideous to me in front of her friend. She also does bizarre attention seeking in front of friend- but with the focus being me? Ie, she will hang off me in the kitchen, throw stuff on the floor and tell me to come pick it up, insist I play with them as well. It drives me bat crazy!

Virgil · 15/01/2013 10:44

Can't you just avoid play dates until they're a little bit older and more able to cope with the excitement? Surely they see their friends all day at school anyway.

rainbowriver · 15/01/2013 11:06

My DD is exactly like this! I thought she was a one off!

One friend even said she will never come round again!

Playdates for us just don't go well at all.

werewolvesdidit · 15/01/2013 21:49

My DS aged 7 is exactly the same. He goes crazy and it is really embarrassing. So glad to hear that he is not the only one. He has play dates as he is now home educated (for over a year) but he was like that when he was at school too. If he was at school I probably wouldn't do playdates at all as it's so stressful. My recent solution has been to take them out somewhere eg park so that there is a lot more scope for crazy, energetic play and it stops the house getting trashed.

Passthesaltdear · 15/01/2013 22:07

My 3 year old is a nightmare when he has friends to play, mostly territorial of his toys and v bossy, but also rude to me which is embarrassing in front of other parents. Ends up in lots of time out and me wishing I hadn't bothered! Confused

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