I need the help of wise mnetters!
I have had enough of dd1&dd2 fighting over silly trivial things, I try to stay put of it as much ads possible but it always ends in tears, I need some advice on how to handle things better.
This is what happened this morning:
Snow day so both at home. Dd1 says she'll go upstairs to do homework. I go up later and she's playing on the ipad, so I tell her to switch off and ask both to tidy up their clothes before she starts her homework.
I leave them to it and 5 mons later dd2 comes downstairs crying (she is a drama queen). There is a pair of leggings that neither claim as their own and neither wants to put away. "Fine" I say, I'll have them. (hoping to settle the argument)
But dd1 (who is like me, incidentally 
), can't let go and (also miffed because I told her off), keeps having a go at her sister accusing her of not owning up to the leggings because she did not want to tidy them up (I know crime of the century 
), and they are still shouting at each other. So I go back say it's enough no point arguing I take the leggings stop it now.
But dd1 is not happy because she feels this way dd2 is "winning" so I get entroiled in a lenghty argument about how she always gets told off because of dd2's lies blah blah. (but she also finds it quite hard to admit to being wrong adn will argue to death that to prove her point).
I am a bit at a loss, as I feel sorry for dd1 who obviously feels she is hard done by, and this is ruining her relationship with her sister, at the same time she can be very patronising/sarcastic/unkind with her sister. Dd2 on her side, is deifnitely a drama queen, crying for very little at times, and will lie to get out of trouble, even though normally she will come up with the truth.
I just need some ideas on how to handle these situations better, as I am not doing a great job of it!
Many thanks everyone