At the end of my tether with my 20 month old dd!

[Nancyclancy]

Bit of background info
My dd is 20 months old, she is a bum shuffler and is not walking or pulling to stand. She is strong on her legs when I stand her up and will 'walk' if I hold her hands.
She has been under a paediatrician since 15 months as I was concerned about her gross motor development. When we saw paed at this time, she wasn't shuffling. She's had blood tests to rule out things like muscle wastage and other conditions that would delay her walking. She's been to see a really well known and highly recommended physio who checked her over and said that there is nothing physically wrong with her.
Her other areas of development are within the normal range.

Anyway in the last few months she has turned from a happy easy and loving baby into a little monster.
She has full on rages at the slightest of things and they go on for ages. I've stopped taking her to friends houses (who have dc of a similar age) because all she does is scream. When we go for a walk with her in pushchair she gets angry if I stop and talk to anyone. She creates at toddler groups too, so I'm now avoiding those because I could just cry.
She likes the park but that's about it.

She sleeps well at night and will usually sleep for about an hour and a half in the day.

I've tried helping her when she gets angry, ignoring, putting her in another room and today I put her up in her cot. She'll scream until she's sick.
When I felt she calming down, I took her back downstairs and she watched a bit of TV and calmed right down and has been sweetness and light since.

I'm paranoid that she's not walking and now paranoid because of all the toddlers we know she's the most miserable by far. TodayI have felt that i just want to stay in all the time and not take her anywhere.

I know she's frustrated and is at that age where tantrums start but I am running out of ideas as what to do. She can be so lovely and so awful but nothing in between.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Welcome to the terrible twos

If she is happy going to the park, then just take her to the park. No point in getting stressed about baby groups.

When dd has a tantrum, I use ignore her until she has finished.

Both my nephews were days before their 2nd birthday before they walked.

Thanks for your reply. I'm a lot calmer since I posted earlier and typically she's been angelic this evening.

You're right, I don't know why I bother with groups. I'll stick with the park, she does love it! That is reassuring about your nephews walking so late, there can't be too much wrong with her legs from the way she kicks them in rage!

Believe it or not, I'm a mother of four. My first three ( two and three are twins) had their moments but nothing compared to their sister

Yep, with my nephews, they didn't roll, crawl or bum shuffle. Just got up and walked

My dd is the same, my mum says it revenge as I was the same

I keep repeating to myself that it will pass fingers crossed

My DD was 21 months a few days ago and she is also a very late walker. She has only recently begun pulling herself up to stand. She crawls or walks on her knees most of the time. Like yours she has had blood tests etc and nothing wrong with her - the paed said her ankes very bendy (called it hypermobile) but said she would walk in her own time and not to worry. She has seen a physio once who said the same. She is generally very good at home and easy to deal with - has slept all night since 2 months old.

However - she does not like other toddlers her own age. I go to a lot of groups. She is lovely with all the adults as long as they are giving HER their undivided attention (God forbid they would want to play with their own babies lol). She is fine with very young babies/newborns who basically just lie there. I think she is jealous of others her age because they are walking and she is not. Her speech/other areas of development is fine - around 40 words, no phrases yet.

I would say keep taking your DD to the groups as it is good for her to see other kids - as you are a Mum of four she already has older siblings to play with. I am expecting baby 2 any day now and I expect DD will be fine with her as she will see her as like her 'dollies'. However if you/she really can't stand the groups maybe give it a rest for a while.

It is reassuring for me to read on this thread about other kids who walked at t age 2.