Am i a nasty mother? (there is a method behind the madness though!

[LoveMyGirls]

My dd is 6 she goes through phases of being very cheeky with a terrible attitude i try to nip it in the bud and calmly tell her not speak to me like that but she carrys on and pushes it too far so on monday i took ALL HER EASTER CHOCOLATE OFF HER! and put it on top of my wardrobe and said she could choose something everyday after dinner IF she could behave herself and not be cheeky all day - so far this has actually worked so it shows that she can be good when she trys.
At first i did think of taking a bar off her each time she was naughty but she wouldnt have any left and no way of getting them back so im wondering did i do the right thing (as it is working) or am i evil for taking her easter chocolate away (although it has stopped her eating her way through the lot)

Not at all, I took DS's away on Easter Sunday,following a total melt down.

My DS is rising 5 but thinks he is 15, I asked him to pick something up for me yesterday as my hands were full, and he replied you have arms. Needless to say I was not best pleased.

He is also earning his back.

No your not horrible I would do exactly the same, in fact I am currently withholding it until dd fills her star chart by going to the toilet/potty which ever she likes, so long as she goes I don't care

I have a similar line on rudeness and think this is fair enough, if the kids dont learn to be polite when they are small they certainly wont learn it later on! There is evidence that polite kids do beteer at school and are more sucessful as adults etc etc so you are doing them a favour!

I think you've got exactly the right approach. Too much choc in one go isn't good and politeness/manners and good behaviour are very important.

Agree with elastamum about having problems later on if kids aren't disciplined properly. I have to keep reminding myself with my dss that I am the parent and I am the boss. However much I want to cave in to their demands it won't do them any good in the long run if they don't learn appropriate behaviour and self-control.

I agree that you are taking exactly the right approach. I have observed that temporary deprivation of treats/toys that then need to be earned back works far better than threats of permanent deprivation.

Well done you.

I find taking favourite toys/treats away for bad behaviour works very well where time out has failed for us in the past. I would have no hesitation in doing it again.