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People keep saying DD is a 'late walker'

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GoldPlatedNineDoors · 05/01/2013 20:32

She is one. I am consistantly being asked by friends family and fucking strangers on the street if she is waling yet. The answer is no, and I am not in the least bit.concerned. However they then say things like "oh sch and such was a Late Walker too" - surely she isnt yet late

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InTheNightGarden · 05/01/2013 21:54

do not panic!

my dd is just over 20 months and still not walking, infact she's only just started standing....not that she does that very often either Haha :) they all progress differently, no child is the same :)

Sheshelob · 05/01/2013 21:59

My 14 month old isn't walking yet, but he looks well over 2yrs as he is a certifiable whopper. When people ask if he's walking, I tell him he doesn't need to as he can drive.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 05/01/2013 22:01

Does she look older than she is? If she's quite confident on her feet but not walking, people might assume she's older than she is.

But she is very very much not a late walker!! If in another whole year she isn't walking then I'd start to think that

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 05/01/2013 22:03

I think 'Is she walking' is just one of those things people ask (and to be honest it's getting harder and harder to make 'safe' conversation with people), but to then say 'she's a late walker or x was a late walker too' is just nuts unless she looks over 2.

Fuzzymum1 · 05/01/2013 22:09

None of mine walked by a year, they walked at 17, 19 and 14 months. I believe 14 months is the average so she's definitely not late!

golemmings · 05/01/2013 22:17

I wasn't even crawling at 16 months. Or standing. Then, when I was sure I could do it without embarrassing myself I walked without a wobble from the front of the house to the back of the house. It was 23ft my mum tells me. Your dc sounds absolutely normal and bright enough to know there are easier ways to move around than walking. I Like her style.

I guess people are only making conversation but it is annoying.

sipper · 05/01/2013 22:40

No, def not late! In fact, if she is doing full on crawling then that is excellent and really very very very beneficial to her development (right/left brain coordination and all that wiring is massively benefited by decent amount of crawling). Sounds less like she is late and more like she is intuitively doing the right thing.

FunnysInLaJardin · 05/01/2013 22:43

she's fine. DS1 was 14 months and DS2 was 9 months, but then he is a freak I mean who on earth has a baby who actually walks. It really was freakish

OwlCatMouse · 05/01/2013 22:46

Ugh. I got this loads. DS did actually take a few steps just before his first birthday, but it was like he couldn't be arsed and pootled about on his little scooter thing instead.

EVERYBODY in our postnatal group, in our NCT group and all friends commented. He was the last to walk out of all my friends with babies (all born the same month, or had a similar adusted age)

Idiots. He walked at 16mo - just got up, walked and didn't really fall down at all.

I remember one of my 'friends' got her little girl with a walker and helped her walk up and down, up and down... all the bloody time. She'd take it with her to friends houses and to soft play. She was so proud that she was walking early, and gave me such a pittying fucking look when DS 'still wasn't walking'
Poor little soul was only 7mo! She was doing v well, but god... pushy much!

FunnysInLaJardin · 05/01/2013 22:48

oh and DS2 just walked on his own. I would have much rather he waited until he was about 2! Once they walk they are a PITA. In fact DS2 has been a PITA ever since and he is nearly 3

hifi · 05/01/2013 23:30

Dd1 was 22 months, very agile and co ordinated now.

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GoldPlatedNineDoors · 06/01/2013 08:19

She does look older than she is and is very tall. Maybe thats why. She can pull up to furniture, cruise around it, push a walker, climb onto and over stuff, and stand independently. She just crawls or walks.on hands and feet to get around.

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FestiveFiggy · 06/01/2013 08:22

My DS is same age born 22/12/11 and he started walking properly the week before his bday it's a bloody nightmare!!!

Why r people in such a hurry for them to be able to roll, crawl, walk, talk etc they do it at their own pace

LadyMargolotta · 06/01/2013 08:25

It sounds like she is doing very well for 12 months.

Nivet · 06/01/2013 08:25

My DD was 1 on Christmas Day and doesn't even crawl properly, although she can get around very quickly free style. I am absolutely not bothered about it, DS was 18 months before he walked, suits me!

I have had some comments from other Mums, especially competitive Princess Mum I occasionally end up walking with on the school run. Ignore or point out the benefits of the static/slower moving child.

TeaOneSugar · 06/01/2013 08:38

I'm afraid if your dd is very tall for her age, you will have to develop a thick skin to comments, my dd has always been tall for her age, and people (in particular ladies 65+ in cafes) have always assumed she's older than she is and therefore she should be acting the age they have assumed she is ifswim.

Not as much of a problem now she's 9 but is the height of a 12/13 year old, because it's more obvious now that she's younger, but certainly during the toddler days it was an issue.

You'll also get a lot of "isn't she big" comments if you bother to tell them her actual age, which I always responded to with (and still do) "No, she's just TALL".

TeaOneSugar · 06/01/2013 08:40

ifswim, what does that mean iyswim.

insanityscratching · 06/01/2013 08:43

Dniece walked at eight months and it was a nightmare for dsis as she'd just walk until she hit something fall to the ground get up walk again, fall etc
Mine walked at 18 months and it was so much easier as they seemed to have a lot more sense and within a couple of weeks there was no difference between dniece and dd in their skills.

BananaPie · 06/01/2013 08:52

Don't worry about it. Dd has just started at 22 months. She's been diagnosed with low muscle tone and is having physio for it. I've never been bothered when people ask if she's walking yet. Go and see your GP if you think there's something wrong.

TotallyTopical · 06/01/2013 09:12

Firstly, if she can pull up to her feet and cruise the furniture then many people would describe that as being able to walk even though it isn't really. Don't say no, say "yes, when she has something to hold on to" or "she's nearly got it".

Secondly, babies are a bit boring and people are just trying to make conversation and at your dd's age, walking and talking are the main things that babies are starting to do, so people are going to ask about it and then pad out the conversation with some misremembered crap about their own kids or grandkids or neigbour's nephew's kids. Don't take it to heart.

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