4 year old DS still won't sleep through the night in his own bed.

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That's it really... we have tried all sorts and have just completely ran out of ideas.

He goes to bed about 7.30, we read him a story, then it is lights off and settle down, 9 times out of 10 he is asleep within 5 minutes, but he wakes up again sometimes less than an hour later, and he just will not settle back in his bed, so we end up having to go to bed so he can get in our bed and go to sleep. Last night we decided we weren't going to let him get in our bed, so we stayed awake till he finally got back to sleep at gone 1 o'clock this morning, and then we woke up this morning to him in our bed again - neither of us had woken up when he got in as we are just so used to it happening.

We haven't had our own bed for 4 years, and to be honest, we are just fed up of it now!

TIA

You just have to keep going and going putting him back in his bed until he gets the message that you are not going to stand for it. No matter how much he gets up you put him straight back and at 4 I would do the wall chart thing and give him treat stickers for when he has stayed in his bed and if you wake up with him in yours take one away and when he gets to say 7 take him somewhere nice and tell everyone what a big boy he is being and how grown up he is etc etc.

My BFs sister took 2 weeks of nightmares with her daughter and finally got her in her own bed at 6 years old but she says the 2 weeks were worth it 10x over!!

My 4.5 dd wont sleep in her bed either so you have my sympathies. She is at school now so im going to wait until the summer holidays and try one of the bed training methods if she isn't in her own room by then.

rapid return! works for dr tanya but may take a while!

just keep putting him in his bed. say goodnight and then leave.

sit outside his room and put jhim back to bed every time he gets out.
try not to say anything.

Thanks for the advice. It is good knowing we are not the only ones who have this problem.

We will give the chart a good go, DS will respond to it well I think, and I will set up camp outside his door!

Thanks again :)

we have this with 5 yr old ds.