How do I deal with inappropriate kissing in 5 year olds?

[purplepumpkin]

I've discovered that DD1 aged 5 has been playing a game with her friend, a little boy also aged 5, which involves pulling her pants and trousers down and him kissing her bottom.

I haven't talked to her yet about it, but how can I phrase things properly, so that she knows it's inappropriate but doesn't think it's dirty IYKWIM?

TIA

My stock phrase for these situations is: "You don't need to be playing any game that requires you to remove your pants." I occasionally say this in advance if I can sense that kind of silliness in the offing. Cue much hysterical giggling, but at least they've been told.

I'd bet good money that your dd1 knows it's a 'naughty' game -- probably not in a sexual way, but in the same way that poo and willy jokes are naughty. I would just say, "Bottoms are private, you shouldn't show other people your pants or your bottom, and nobody else should touch your bottom."

No big deal. Some children do more of this than others -- i don't think there's any big moral issue at stake, but they need to know it's not acceptable behaviour because a) other children's parents won't like it and may ostracise your child and b) it puts her potentially at risk.

I've told my dd that the bit her knickers cover are her private bits. Whilst it's ok for us to walk around in the buff, it's not ok to show her private bits to anyone else.

I haven't quite figured out how to tell her why yet though!

Frogs, thank you so much. As you say, it really is no big deal, but I wanted to choose my words very carefully. Your stock phrase will come in very handy!