Transition to toddler bed- advice please!

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About 3 weeks ago, we decided it was time to make the transition from cot to toddler bed. DS seemed really excited by his new 'big boys bed', helping DH to build it and proudly showing it off to anyone who comes to visit! But the little bugger won't actually sleep in it! He's always been a good sleeper until now. As far as we're aware, he slept right through when he was in his cot. Now though, he either point blank refuses to go to sleep in his own bed, or he ends up waking in the middle of the night and coming through to us! And in the middle of the night, the last thing I feel like doing is battling with him to get him to sleep back in his own bed!
The evening routine at the moment usually goes something like this:
Me and DS go upstairs with a story book, DS gets into his bed, I sit along side and start reading. DS then heads off into the direction of our bedroom. If I try to put him back in his bed he kicks up holy hell and usually ends up vomiting so I give in, read him a story in our bed - which is where he falls asleep- and I move him to his bed once me and DH go to bed.
I'm well aware that a lot of you will, think I'm being too soft on him but any
advice on how to get him to sleep in his own bed would be great fully received

How old is he?
Was he in that room in his cot, then you changed his cot for a bed. Or was he in your room in a cot?

Put his cot up again?

Have you got room for both?

I agree ^^ . It's really not worth getting so stressed about bedtimes. It will cause loads of problems and anxiety. He will not be in his cot forever. Ds was in his till around 3.5 because he wouldn't sleep in a bed. Just relax and try not to create battles at bedtime.

He's 20 months, in same room as his cot was in. Don't really want to put him back in cot as DC2 due in April and would like DS settled in his bed before then if possible!

I think if you put the cot up in the same room, after a little while he will want to go in the bed of his own accord. And April in toddler terms is a long way off yet, to get used to a new change. I'm certain he'll

Oops sorry posted too soon.

..be settled by then.

Sorry, no advice to give but lots of interest and empathy

Our DD1 is 20 months and has discovered how to climb out of her cot bed. She shares a room with her 8 month old sister and we're concerned if we convert her cotbed to a bed she'll just go explore and poke her sister but if we leave her in her cotbed she'll hurt herself climbing out! We haven't got a solution yet, we've just built a drop pit by the cotbed and baby proofed the room in case she does her acrobatic act again

Do you think he was ready for the switch? It's not usually advised before 2yo unless they're trying to climb out of it. The timing could have been wrong. Sorry, that doesn't help you now, but i think they make the switch much easier if you wait until you're certain they're ready.

Tbh toddlers love routine so if he's become used to having a story and being put to bed in your bed, it might take a few nights to change that with consistently bringing him back into his room and reading to him in there before putting him to bed in his own room, though i appreciate you have no appetite for the fight which makes him sick. Is there any way you can entice him to stay in his room? Does he still have a bottle/ cup of milk? Could you say "I have a lovely bottle of milk for you, but you have to drink it in your room and go to bed in your room"?

If all else fails, i might be tempted to put the cot sides back on until you're sure he's ready. We waited until after the excitement of Christmas (he's 2.1)and a period when he was particularly tired by the evening and properly ready for bed and also sleeping well at night (no coughs, colds or other illnesses). I seem to remember DS went through a difficult patch around 20 months when he was particularly clingy with separation anxiety - i think they go through it as they're making the switch to being more independent because they're not quite ready to let go of being a baby yet. Just a thought. Good luck.

DD is still in a cotbed and she's 2.6. It doesn't sound like he's ready to move, so why not leave him as he is for now? It might be nice for him to have the familiarity and security of his cot when his new sibling arrives.

I agree with Someone. My DD is 2 and not ready for bed yet. I don't understand what benefit him being in big boy bed before his sibling is born has tbh.
Sorry but by sounds if it it's too soon

If you're planning for the cot to be passed on to the next baby in April, you've got more time taknginto account the moses basket phase. But tbh I'd be tempted to get cheap and lovely ikea cot for the new baby and then sell on, or buy/borrow an alternative.

We kept the cot up and if dd got out of her new toddler bed, the consequence was that she had to sleep in her cot. She did it once and was so upset being in her cot rather than her big girl bed, she never got out again. But we did keep the cot up for a couple of months I think as a reminder!

Our dd1 was nowhere near leaving her cotbed at 2 1/2 and we had a failed attempt at removing the side. When dd2 arrived and hated her moses basket we coughed up the money to get a basic cot for a few months and then sell it on. dd1 was over 3 when she moved to a bed. dd2 is now coming up to three and is in the cotbed by choice (another failed attempt to remove the side to get her used to it) but also has a full sized single bed in her room. She'll make the switch when she's ready even though I'd rather move her sooner than later to give her more floor space to play.
I think you ds may well be a little too young.