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my baby wont sleep in her cot

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sophia24 · 27/12/2012 00:36

My little girl is 9 months old and just wont sleep in her cot, the moment i place her in there she becomes very upset. I have even tried getting her to sleep first and then placing her in but the moment i lye her down she wakes and cries. At the moment she sleep in our bed every night, which i am aware cant go on forever i just dont no what to do as i wil not leave her to cry. Any advice?

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Bessie123 · 27/12/2012 00:44

Does she sleep well in your bed? Does she lie in the same position as she would in her cot or is she on her side, breastfeeding? Could it be uncomfortable for her to lie on her back? How do you feel about co-sleeping for longer?

Personally, I hated co-sleeping but was forced into it for about a year by my ds refusing to sleep in his cot. He woke frequently throughout the night during this time but bf seemed to soothe him back to sleep. It turned out he had food allergies/intolerances and silent reflux and was in pain lying on his back. When we changed his diet he started to sleep through the night on his own.

Bessie123 · 27/12/2012 00:45

And btw, there is nothing wrong with co-sleeping for as long as your dd wants to, if you are happy with that

piglettsmummy · 27/12/2012 00:49

cc worked really well for me if your strong willed enough for it but it is kinda a last resort sounds like she's gotten used to sleeping with you

flibbergibbet · 27/12/2012 01:00

My dd is 11 month old and will not sleep in her cot either, same as your little one in that she gets very distressed if I put her in it. I've decided not to worry about it and concentrate on getting her to sleep thr

flibbergibbet · 27/12/2012 01:03

Lol and I haven't even been on the wine tonight! Concentrate on getting her to sleep through is what I was trying to say! Anyway that's going really well and I get a much better sleep even if she is in with me :)

flibbergibbet · 27/12/2012 01:04

Agree with Bessie, don't worry too much about the opinion of others if you are happy to cosleep.

Himalaya · 27/12/2012 01:10

How do you feel about having her in your bed? Even if you do end up co-sleeping with her as a baby that won't go on for ever and you will be able to transition her into her own bed. So the question is how important is it for you to have her in a cot now?

FWIW neither of mine spent much time in their cots as babies - crying like yours, so we gave up on that. For a while we had a single and a double pushed together to make a great big bed.

You can do controlled crying, but don't do it because you assume that most people have their babies in cots and that you a failing at something if it doesn't work out like that for you. There are more people cosleeping than you might imagine.

ZuleikaD · 27/12/2012 07:37

Perfect age for separation anxiety - totally age-appropriate - and needing to be with you while she goes to sleep is a classic symptom. How does she do if you sit with her - perhaps with a hand on her back or tummy through the bars?

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