My own version of controlled crying :-(

[KatyJ26]

So, she is 6mo, hopeless at sleeping at night and in the day. I am now trying to get her to sleep in her cot. I set my phone timer for 2 mins, leave her to cry (while I sit on the floor, out of sight and contemplate crying myself ) when the 2 mins is up, I put her dummy back in, ssshhhh and then hide again. It is awful! I hate it and it is not really me. But I have to get her sleep sorted as we will all feel better if she can have a good long sleep (mostly her - it's surely not good to just cat nap on the go here and there)

I don't really know what I'm expecting anyone to say, but feel better for keeping myself busy while listening to her cry :-(

Hi, I have to say ime sleep training works better if you start witg nighttime sleep (they are more tired!) . With dd she was sleeping through at about 5 months but it took a few more before she'd nap in her cot so I stuck to long walks!x

Naps in the cot didn't happen for us until we had a really predictable daytime routine in place. DS (7 1/2 months) didn't nap at home AT ALL for the first 5 months of his life. I was a wreck. I used to walk/drive for miles to get him to sleep. What I did was work out when he was tired each day, which was about 9am and about 12.30pm, then I would plan my day around walking/driving at those times. Once he'd got used to that then I started trying the cot. It didn't work well at first, we had a lot of whinging and some actual crying, but then one day he just got the hang of it. I worked on the principle that I knew he was tired, as that was when he always had a nap, so I persevered. I went and comforted him, gave him his bunny etc, but left him to it. I also created a nap time routine which DH or DM or MIL all follow if they're looking after him. It's nappy change, grobag on, white noise on, quick cuddle, in cot, light off, leave the room. The room always has blackout blinds in.

The flip side of this is that now he doesn't sleep terribly well in the car... But I suppose you can't have everything! I try and make sure one nap a day is at home in the cot, or at MIL's house, as he does sleep much better then.

I do find though that naps are very precarious, today for example he had a really crappy short morning nap, and then a not vey long afternoon nap in the car, whereas yesterday he had an hour in the morning and an hour and a quarter in the afternoon and I had to wake him up from both. Babies are random! However he does have two teeth poking through, so I think there is some teething trouble going on...!

Hello
I have a DS (20mo) who was like that
Worth checking out silent reflux - he would sleep in car seat but not buggy cot - anywhere lying down, turns out because of sr
You can get treatment tho gavisgon is a bit shit
He slept much much better as soon as on more solids and again when he could walk 13mo
At 15 mo slept 12 he's night 5 out of 7 nights
currently in sleep regression hell at 20mo and I'm clearly no specialist!