Any advice appreciated! Name changed for this as I don't usually hide my identity much.
Ds is in year 3. He was a very shy boy up until y1, but has since become more confident socially and has a fairly wide circle of friends - probably a core group of 6-8 who he asks to see outside school, and his favourites vary from week to week. He is at a fairly large school and his friends are split across classes.
In his class this year are two of the "core" friends, who seem to have got themselves into a big competition with each other on all kinds of levels (eg who is best at football, tennis etc etc), and in particular who is ds's best friend. They are constantly quizzing ds on this, he tells them (and I encourage him to tell them) that they and others are all his friends and he doesn't have a favourite.
Boy x's mother has become a good friend of mine (I met her as a result of the boys being friends), and I also get on well with boy y's mother.
Boy x has for the last few weeks been complaining that boy y is picking on him, I have been listening to her concerns but not commenting other than to say it might be worth having a friendly word with boy y's mother to tell her that boy x is a bit upset about some name calling etc. (the two of them also know each other).
Ds has mentioned a few times recently that boy x has been being nasty to boy y, swearing at him, hitting him and making false allegations to the teacher in order to get boy y in trouble. My view was that I should stay well out of it, although I did witness exactly this kind of behaviour at a recent group get together. I believe ds on this.
Boy x's mother asked me directly today whether ds had had any trouble with boy x, as she had spoken to boy y's mother, and been told that boy y thought boy x was at fault. I said that ds had not had any trouble. Which is true, but not the complete picture. Boy x's mother seems to be reaching the conclusion that boy y is bullying boy x.
I'm right to stay out of this, aren't I?